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My mother is suffering from Terminal Cancer has been through so much over last 10yrs, has Cervical cancer that spread to lungs and has a Kidney removed, then had a Stroke an been in and out of hospital continually. 3mths ago hospital asked Mum to go on chemotherapy tablets-- after one month they said to stop tablets has affecting her one kidney- Has been really Strong and Courageous all through this but i am finding it difficult to cope and cannot help much has my own health also deteriorating- My sisters don't live near and expect me to help - i am at my wits end and can not cope - i feel so Alone, they never listen to what I say regarding Mum who depends on me but both our health's are going downhill an I don't know what to do....

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    Hi Angelzs,

     

    A very warm welcome to our forum.

    I am so sorry to hear about your mum's ituation. This must be very difficult for you, especially when your sisters are not helping out. Do you know that you can get carers coming in to help look after your mum? You can also get support from your practice and district nurses. MacMillan and Marie Curie can also help out, as you cannot look after someone who is terminally ill for 24 hours a day, without your own health failing.

    Sadly, it is often the case that one person in the family is left to carry the burden in situations like this. Please believe me that you are never alone, now that you have found this forum. Many of us have been through or are going through, what you are experiencing and are here to support you.

    Please keep in touch and remember that we are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Hi [@Angelzs]‍ ,

    I am in a very similar situation ,so you are not alone ! My mom also has cervical cancer - mets now to adrenal gland, lungs and brain. She is close to the end of the journey unfortuntely. I currently put my London life on hold - work , relationship etc and moved in with my dad in their studio,whom I don't get along with. I completely understand the feeling of loneliness, I have it so often myself. But we are stronger than we think we are. And sounds like your mother still has options ! Doctors here gave up on mother quite quickly and they just told us to put her in an hospice for end of life care after only trying one chemo cycle last year.

    Just take it one day at a time and see what tomorrow brings, please do not overthink!

     

    Diana

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