Hi,my mum was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer just over 18months ago, she also has it in her lymph nodes and rib,she has had immunotherapy and radiation therapy,she seemed to pic up a little bit,but now she is in a lot of pain and lost loads of weight, last few days she has spent most of it in bed, she in 40 mg morphine twice a day plus the liquid when needed, the consultant said he is considering cemo but thinks the side effects would be too much, can anyone tell me if this could be the end or could she pic up again,im at a loss as to what to expect 

Hi Loo1512, I'm sorry to hear that. I can't really help on what could happen next. I know Jolamine will be able to help you more. From my experience with my mum once you are too weak for treatment it usually means that there isn't too much more they can do. I know everybody is different though. Try and savour every moment you can with your mum. All the time you can spend together is special. My thoughts are with you and your mum. X

Simon 

Hi Jolamine, I just wanted to check that you were doing ok. I just had a look on your profile and saw you had covid. That’s awful Jolamine. I hope you are managing as best as you can. I hope your husband is doing ok too. I just wanted to check in, you take care Jolamine. x

Simon

Hi Simon,

Thank you for your good wishes. Hubby and I have both had Covid. We think that he got it at the stroke club and kindly brought it home to me. It's been a tough few weeks, but we are at last testing clear, although still totally exhausted.

How are you doing? I hope that you are making the most of all this good weather.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine, I’m so sorry to hear that. I’m glad you are finally clear although it sounds like you still are getting a lot of the after effects. Hopefully that clears with time and you both feel better. Ah did he, it’s so easy to pick things up isn’t it these days.

I’m doing ok thanks Jolamine. I have, it’s been really nice weather hasn’t it! I have just been pottering around trying to tidy up the garden. Just do little bits at a time, it does give me a reason to go out and get some sun though which is good! I have just been trying to work out the new forum too, it’s totally different isn’t it! I’m getting there now! I hope you both continue to feel better Jolamine! You take care. 

Simon x

Hi Simon,

We certainly still have some of the after effects, but hopefully they'll clear with time.

I'm glad to hear that you are doing ok  and that the good weather is tempting you to tidy up the garden. We have lived in our house for over 40 years. We noticed that some of our lawn was beginning to sink at Christmas. When we investigated it fully, we discovered a 12 foot wide and 10 foot deep hole. We had the mining company out along with Scottish water, but neither could shed any light on the cause. We have now filled in the hole with 8 tons of stone and are waiting for this to settle before we lay more grass on top.

Yes the new forum is totally different. I must confess that I am missing some of the older attributes, that they seem to have done away with, but it is good not to be constantly losing posts. Thank you for your good wishes.

Take care,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine, yes I believe it is difficult to shake of the after effects but hopefully in time you both feel normal again. I’m sure it took it out of you both. 
Wow did you Jolamine, that is crazy. A 10 foot hole! I guess uiu don’t know with these things till you check. I bet that took some filling in, that’s a big hole! Isn’t it strange how they couldn’t find a cause for it. One minute the lawn is sinking, the next you have a huge hole! Hopefully it settles soon than you can lay more grass on top. 

My garden is mostly concrete with a few plants dotted around. I have been trying to get rid of the weeds, they are a real pain! It does get me up mad about thought and once it’s done I will feel a sense of accomplishment. I just do a little bit each day! It was ultra hot yesterday here, it’s difficult to sleep when it gets that warm isn’t it! 

it is isn’t it Jolamine, I suppose after a bit of time you get used to the change with the forum but it’s hard work at first. I’m glad you aren’t losing all your posts! Thank you Jolamine! You take care and I hope you and your husband continue to feel better soon.

Simon x

Hi Simon,

I hope that the after effects don't last for too long, as they've really knocked me for 6. With regards to our hole.  I am so relieved that my children or grandchildren haven't fallen into it, before we discovered it.

My ideal garden is now one like yours. We really will have to move soon, as the garden is too big for me to keep. It's a constant battle with he weeds - great when it all looks neat and tidy, then all back again in no time. We have had lovely weather here for the past month, but it does make it difficult to sleep at night.

I suppose that we'll get used to the new forum with time, but it doesn't seem as intuitive as the old one.

Jolamine xx

yes dear i understand and i wish you always good and smiles to you freshness to you and saying words to me will makes you feel light and i also will share my words to you i am happy to hear about your garden and i feel freshness to imagen your sweet garden the weather to me is also very lovely here nowdays and i enjoy like you its nice meeting to you and we can keep in touch to each other 

Hi Jolamine, hopefully the symptoms aren’t long term. I can only imagine how difficult it has been for you both. Hopefully over time they disappear.
I’m sure you were shocked about the hole. I’m glad the children didn’t have any mishaps. You don’t expect things like that to happen! 
It sounds like it’s very difficult for you to keep on top off. I must admit I would like a large garden but as you said you have to keep on top of it and then once it’s done it’s not long before you have to do it again! I must admit with mostly concrete it’s just once every couple of years which does make it easier! I do know what you mean though. We have some hedges and they are constantly growing and need trimming!

It has been very warm today here Jolamine, it’s a bit too much for me once you get near 30! Hopefully it’s not too hot to sleep tonight! I agree about the forum, I went back to edit my post as there was a few spelling mistakes and it wouldn’t let me change anything. I do miss the edit function. I guess everything is hard work at first though! I hope you have had nice weather there Jolamine. You take care. 

Simon x

Hi Bhattimrp,

Welcome to our forum.

Yes, we have had a fantastic spell of weather. Can I ask, have you had cancer of any kind and is there anything we can help you with?

Kind regards,

Jolamine 

Hi Simon,

I hope that the side-effects won't be long-term. We were certainly very surprised to find a hole of that size in a garden, which we have tended and played in for so many years. The garden is an acre in size, with large hedges on all four sides and I have over 100 pots to tend to, as well as the greenhouse and the rest of the garden. It was great for the children to play in when they were small, but it's too much for me now.

This is the warmest day that we've had and it really felt quite oppressive. I was expecting to have thunder and lightening tonight, but it hasn't come yet.

I see an edit function back at the bottom of posts. I haven't tested it out yet, but hope that it works, as most of us find this very useful.

Regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Simon,

I hope that the side-effects won't be long-term. We were certainly very surprised to find a hole of that size in a garden, which we have tended and played in for so many years. The garden is an acre in size, with large hedges on all four sides and I have over 100 pots to tend to, as well as the greenhouse and the rest of the garden. It was great for the children to play in when they were small, but it's too much for me now.

This is the warmest day that we've had and it really felt quite oppressive. I was expecting to have thunder and lightening tonight, but it hasn't come yet.

I see an edit function back at the bottom of posts. I haven't tested it out yet, but hope that it works, as most of us find this very useful.

Regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine, I just wanted to check in and see how you are doing. I hope you and your husband are well and you are both feeling better now with no side effects after having covid.
I am doing ok, I’ve just been getting on with things. I know I haven’t spoke in a while but I wanted to wish you Merry Christmas and I hope you have a nice time. You take care Jolamine.

Simon x

Hi Simon,

It's lovely to hear from you and I'm glad to hear that you are doing ok. I'm sure that you've had some sad moments too, but it's good to hear that you are getting on with things. Did you manage to get your benefits sorted?

This year has flown by for us. We are still suffering the after effects of COVID, which has left us both exhausted. We are planning to move house in the New Year. It's about time that we downsized, as the garden is getting too much for me now. We are planning on moving closer to my son and his family, so it will be quite a change. What are your plans for Christmas? Whatever they are, I hope that you have a Very Happy Christmas and a good New Year.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine, oh no I’m so sorry to hear that you are still having after effects from covid. I know they must be very frustrating for you. I know a lot of people do get them but it’s no consolation. Hopefully at some point they do clear up for both of you! Oh are you moving house, that’s always a huge task isn’t it. That will be nice that you are moving closer to your family though. Yes a big house is no good is it when you have to keep on top of it! You just end up running round cleaning all the time! I hope the move goes well for you.

I‘m doing well thank you. Yes I got everything sorted with the benefits. It was a relief when it was all done but it gave me some stability which is what I needed. I have had ups and downs as you say but have been managing ok. I will be going to my sisters for Christmas Day. I’m sure my 3 nephews will have lots going on no doubt! 
It was nice to hear from you too Jolamine! Merry Christmas and happy new year to you! I hope you and your family have a lovely time. You take care Jolamine.

Simon x

Hi Simon,

I am so glad to hear that you are doing well. You will gradually find that there are more ups than downs in your life, but it's a slow process. I am pleased to hear that you managed to get your finances sorted to give you more stability.

It's a big thing to move house at our age, especially when we are moving so far away, but we are looking forward to new beginnings.

I hope that you have a wonderful time with your sister and her family on Christmas Day, and I wish you Good Health and Happiness for the New Year.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine, I am doing much better thank you. I do have ups and downs but you do learn to live with things more as time passes. Getting my finances sorted has helped me feel better definitely. 

Ah yes I can imagine, it’s a huge thing. They say moving house is one of the most stressful things in life don’t they! I’m sure once it’s done you will feel better though with the smaller house and being closer to your family. I know that you probably can’t think about that yet and have a million things to sort out! I hope it goes as well as possible for you!

Thank you so much Jolamine, I hope you and your husband and family have a nice Christmas too! I wish you all the best health and happiness for the new year Jolamine. You take care.

Simon x

Hi Simon,

We had a verbal acceptance of our offer today, so it does look as if we'll be moving early in the new year. As you rightly said, we'll have a million things to sort out before we move, but I'll worry about that after Christmas. We are looking forward to new beginnings and hope that it all turns out well.

Have a wonderful Christmas and remember that I am always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine, did you. That's great news! I'm sure your mind has lots going on now, like you said enjoy Christmas first and then you can worry more about the move after. I'm glad it got accepted and hope the move all goes as well as it can. Thank you so much Jolamine, that really means a lot to me. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas too, thank you! You take care Jolamine.

Simon x