Why is life so cruel!

My mum has been through a hell of a rollercoaster the last few weeks. Perfectly healthy woman,2yrs ago she was diagnosed with lung cancer, which then they found it also in the breast and on her brain. She had chemo to begin with but sadly ended up with neutropenic sepsis. Luckily she recovered and the chemo worked! She then had brain surgery, mastectomy, and then before Xmas a tumour removed from her groin, which the last surgery has turned her world upside down. Few weeks after She had severe pain after the surgery, so was admitted to hospital in jan, which they then gave her reduced chemo because of effects from last time, but then, again, turned to neutropenic sepsis and told us to expect the worse as she wouldn't make it the next morning. Luckily she pulled through. But the pain was still there. Nurses noticed an infection in her wound so admitted her to hospital for intravenous antibiotics, which is now under control, but her calcium levels are high and they discovered a blood clot yesterday. We are waiting for the oncologist to come back to her today to discuss results of ct scan. I'm dreading the phone call as I am expecting the worst. I'm not sure what I am looking for writing this post, but I have seen how helpful other members have been. Why does life have to be so cruel? She doesn't deserve this. She is an amazing woman and is my best friend. I don't know what to expect or how to cope with her loss.

  • Hi,

     

    First of all i am very sorry for what you, your family and your mother are having to go through this. I often wonder this myself, my father is dying of brain cancer and i just cant get my head around why in the hell this would happen to him and my family. We cant prepare for the loss of someone so dear, all we can do is cherish the time we have until the very last moment. If she does pass, remember not to treat yourself in a way she would have been hurt by. She would want you to help yourself and put yourself first.

     

    Always here if you need a chat.

  • Hi, Thankyou for replying to my message. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, and I totally understand how you feel. It just doesn't seem real that the time has come and I'm refusing to believe it. Luckily my mum is taking it all on board and dealing with it well in a way, we have spoke about her passing but behind closed doors I'm really struggling coming to terms with it. It's just a conversation I never thought I would have with her, I expected her to be with me forever, she's still so young at 57. I have never lost someone so dear to me before and I don't know how I should be or what I should do. Your right about cherishing every moment, which I shall do, and I hope you manage to do so with your dad. It's awful what they are both going through and my thoughts and love are with you, your dad and family. I wouldn't wish this upon anyone.

    im also here to chat for you. Sometimes it can really help that there is someone going through the same thing xxx