My mum is in the last days, I feel so unable to cope

Hi everyone

It's my first time here posting but I've read so many threads and hoping that people have some advice.

My mum has had a very short time between diagnosis and the time we were all told she has a few days to live.

She is really now becoming so unwell. She's in a hospice with days to live. I'm trying so, so hard to be grateful that I had this time with her, but I am also completely heartbroken. She's being so, so brave. And told me and my brother we are going to have to continue our lives, at the moment I can't see how I will do that. 

One moment, I feel positive and am thankful for the time that we had with her, she dedicated her whole life to raising me and my brother and for that I will be forever grateful but then at other times I'm struggling to breathe. It feels like a really bad dream that I'm desperatly trying to wake myself up from.

Seeing her in her hospital bed yesterday with us all around her with days to live at 55 feels unfair, and I'm utterly in dispair of the next coming months.

Does anyone have any tips on how to cope with this? I don't know if I'll be able to carry on. I feel angry becaise I don't feel people understand. My friends that I have told are trying to help, but whatever they say is just not enough right now. Is this normal?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • Arms around you ............my daughter and son will have to go,through this too and I'm in my early fifties . I'm not there yet but reading your posts makes me wonder how they will cope......do let me know if you find anything that helps you,supports you so I can advise my kids. It's soooooooo hard, the hardest thing you will ever do but you will be amazed how strong your soul is . Don't be afraid to crumble and be vulnerable...... you will rise again and so much stronger than before. How beautiful to love so much.... be kind to yourself xx

  • What a beautiful person you are [@mummawoodsy]‍ 

    My mum sadly passed away last night and seeing her how she was honestly broke my heart, and shattered it into a thousand pieces. You children will be so so proud of you for seeking advice for them. What a kind mum. You should be so proud of yourself. My mum has constantly said she wants me to continue with my life, so I owe it to her to continue and make her proud. I just know that I will miss her voice so much, and her telling me to brush my hair because it looks a mess. Just small things I've always taken for granted.

    I genuinely wish you so so much love and luck on your journey. Are you going through treatment at the moment? You're a beautiful human for asking for advice for your children, j know I'm repeating myself but it's really touched me

     

     

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  • What a beautiful person you are [@mummawoodsy]‍ 

    My mum sadly passed away last night and seeing her how she was honestly broke my heart, and shattered it into a thousand pieces. You children will be so so proud of you for seeking advice for them. What a kind mum. You should be so proud of yourself. My mum has constantly said she wants me to continue with my life, so I owe it to her to continue and make her proud. I just know that I will miss her voice so much, and her telling me to brush my hair because it looks a mess. Just small things I've always taken for granted.

    I genuinely wish you so so much love and luck on your journey. Are you going through treatment at the moment? You're a beautiful human for asking for advice for your children, j know I'm repeating myself but it's really touched me

     

     

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