Dads diagnosis of end stage cancer

Hi all,

 

I was really hoping i would never have to log into this forum again since my dad was placed in remission in october 2019 but i guess sometimes life doesn't work that way.

Since that my gran and grandad have both been diagnosed with cancer (gran - stomach, grandad - blood). My gran passed in the april and my grandad has about 3 years to live.

After what felt like the longest year of my life, my dad started getting ill again after having throat cancer in 2019, we were shockingly hit with the news that the cancer had come back but this time in his brain and liver. It has devastated my family. He has 6-12 months left to live.

I am only 18 years old, my siblings ranging from 23 to 31 and we all have to live without him, let alone my poor mother who has already lost her mum not even a year ago.

I was wondering if anyone could inform me on any support i could get during this difficult time, im open to anything from 1-2-1 support to support groups. I am living in wales right now.

Thank you.

  • I am really sorry to hear this I read your post and had to reply as your situation is very similar to my own. My dad too was diagnosed with cancer and placed in remission in 2019 he had bladder cancer. However in December 2020 he was admitted to hospital with severe headaches and we found out that he has a grade 4 brain tumour. He has had his operation now to remove as much as can be taken without causing serious long term side effects but basically it will return as it is incurable. He has been given 18 months life expectancy. I am only 22 myself and habe now found my life turned completely upside down I have given up my job in order to move in with him and become his full time career. If you ever want to talk I am more than happy to help. Olivia 

  • The fact that you are only 18 is a tradgedy in itself. You're going to go through this. I am 45. My mum is slowly fading due to cancer and I don't know how to cope either. 
     

    but you're not alone. I am one of four and we each have our own memories and relationship with our parents. So I guess you're the youngest like myself. 
     

    I would say, you need to think about the moments you've had with dad and write them down. The holidays you have been, the way he used to tickle you, the way he adores you. 
     

    trust me, I have an 18 year old and a 17 year old, and they are the best things to have happened in my life. You're dad will die better knowing that you are going to be strong, and do something good with your life. 
     

    thys my advice - promise him you're going to live a dream life, be successful, and make sure you do all the things you want to do. 
     

    he will rest easier knowing that you have thought about it.