Hi,
I wonder if anyone can help. I lost my mom in November to Pancreatic Cancer. 3 weeks before she died, me and my family contracted Covid and were unable to visit her. The last time I saw her was the night my dad called to say she'd gone unconscious and I went to say my goodbyes. I'm devastated and filled with so much guilt that I couldn't be with her those weeks to help my dad and brother in her final weeks.
when I got to her (she was at home) she had her eyes and mouth open and the breathing was rattled. She wasn't moving but still breathing. The nurses said she might be able to still hear us so we kept talking to her and I was stroking her hands.
but, I read everywhere that people lose the ability to swallow. This wasn't the case for mom, I could see she was still swallowing so I am wondering does this mean she was well aware of all her bodily sensations and pain?
I'm haunted my the final moments of my mom as well as the time I couldn't spend with her before she died. I was only able to speak with her on the phone and as I wasn't there that final day I don't know what happened and whether she was in pain/comfortable?
