I just wanted to reach out to you and say how sorry I am for you and your family to be going through such a hard time.

I lost my father on Christmas day with oesophagus cancer. It sounds like all the symptoms are the same as what my dad went through 5 weeks before he passed away. He couldn't get out of bed and struggled to even move his legs. My father couldn't eat and we think that made him so much weaker and he sadly lost his fight sooner because of that. 

The process can be different for everyone and my advise would be to make sure he keeps his strength up. My dad could only stomach porridge and soup but then got so fed up of it that he didn't seem to eat at all. Do try as many different soft foods as possible as my dad would always seem better after eating. Strength is definitely important in this horrible battle, my mother said my dad was never in pain as he was on so much morphine so make sure your dad has the right medication to ease any discomfort. 

I never new my dad's cancer was terminal so I only now understand everything that had happened.

My advice would be to make sure he is comfortable, ensure he has the right pain relief, only talk about the good times and keep going with that. It will not be easy but you are never alone. I found Strength in opening up about my feelings and realised that I am also not alone. 

Sending you so much love to you and your family and remember to reach out if you need someone. 

Sorry I can't help change things but I hope you can find comfort in reaching out. 

X

My Dad was diagnosed with stomach and oesophagus cancer two weeks ago and died yesterday. He too had minimal symptoms then deteriorated rapidly. We knew there was nothing to help extend his time so focussed on pain relief and keeping him comfortable. The last days were hard but the last hours were peaceful due to the pain and anti sickness meds. He didn't eat for five days and barely took liquid in the final 3 days. This must have sped the process, which was good as he was ready to leave us due to pain when he was conscious. We had no idea it would be so fast but purely by luck we were with him at the end.

I hope your Dad finds relief from pain and I know how hard it is to see your Dad suffering and not know when the end is coming. xxx

Thankyou for your reply and I'm really sorry you had to go through this with your dad too. Luckily he hardly mentions  pain so I think the medication he is on is the right ones for him......life's so cruel it's just not fair at all, I hope you are coping with your loss as well as you can be......as harsh as it sounds and it breaks my heart to say it but  I wish it would just end for him now, we know he will never get any better so what's the point in him suffering it's horrible. The worst part is he lives over 4 hour away so I can't even be with him. I did go there last week to see him but I came home 2 days ago, just wish I had of stayed there now! 
again Thankyou for your reply and thanks for caring x 

Thankyou for your reply and I'm so so sorry what you are going through, such a cruel disease which unfortunately is always usually diagnosed too late.......luckily my dad isn't in too much pain thanks to the medication but it's so horrible knowing he's hallucinating and confused etc, he is drinking well but very rarely eating it's so hard to watch. ........I'm so sorry how quick it all all happened for your dad from been diagnosed to passing, but in some ways maybe it's  a small comfort to know he did not suffer for long? Mentally and physically...........like I have just replied to the previous post - I wish it would end now for my dad, as horrible as it sounds I just don't want him suffering like this it's so hard to watch xx