Stage 3 but given 3 months prognosis?

Hello all, 

My father diagnosed in June with stage 3 oesophageal cancer. 6.5cm tumour, in 1 lymph node. Had 5 weeks of radiotherapy and only managed 3 chemos. Tumour shrunk. Endoscopy on 21/11/20 shows now a stable 3.5cm tumour. Anyway, he was Able to eat again post treatment through sept/ half ofOct. Active again, in the garden and out shopping with me. Energy levels great then had Problems again with eating, not managing anything for 5 weeks so admitted for a stent and iv fluids. Which was successful. At that point upon admission they said he had 3 months due to his 'decline'. However, he brightened up once able to eat again.... then while on the oncology ward waiting for discharge he caught covid. Home 4th Jan (6week stay) but since being back home he is becoming so tired and fatigued, low folate so given folic acid. Had a meeting with OC on weds who wouldn't say a time but said the 3 month prognosis was how he was prior to eating again and if he is better, then that could be extended. Anyway, How are we meant to tell if this current decline is down to the cancer or covid fatigue? Or anemia? Can you actually die of stage 3 'stable' cancer? They say it is on how quickly people decline but I thought things don't go that way unless it's stage 4, or not eating/drinking ok? No further treatment recommended and told to learn to live with it? So confused.

  • I'm so sorry your going through this, we are going through the same with my dad too, he started with esophegus cancer but it is now in 5 places, I'm not sure about your question about can you die from stage 3 cancer, but my dad has been told he hasn't got long left either because they saw how quickly he has declined. But I'm guessing his is stage 4.......it is such a horrible disease and seeing how quickly they can go down hill is shocking!! My dad was living a pretty normal life up until a few week ago and now all of a sudden he's bed bound, won't eat, breathless when he moves, hallucinating, delirious and talking to himself!! It's heartbraking to watch. He has been told there's no further treatment too, and we have basically just got to wait for him to die! Xx

  • Hi there to you both ... my heart goes out to you.... this is truly a crule time ... 

    What I would say as someone on my cancer journey....  and I was diagnosed with  a grade 3 cancer ... one of the hardest things to do, is accept no amount of treatment will help, and would cause more pain .. there comes a time to say o.k .. no treatment but well make the most of every day ... that's the way l look at life now .. I'd not go through treatment again .. but I will take every day as a bonus ... 

    You can feel those emotions and let them take over your thoughts ... thats what cancer wants us to do, keep going ... no mater what ...  or you can stick two fingers up to cancer and take any time you have to share tears ...  tell them all thats in your hearts ... if they can still chat... listen, there may be things they need to tell you ... or maybe they just want a hand to hold ... its o.k to admit it's scary .. but in doing these things you won't waste one more day with "what ifs"  

    Treatments take a huge amount out of us ... cancer takes our lives and takes away choices ... they just may not want more treatments but worried to say ...  this is gonna be one of the hardest times of your life ... but so many have trod this path before ... and I lost both my parents in my 30s ... 

    Remember we never loose them, they just live in our hearts where cancer van never hurt them again .. sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x