carry on

i dont normally do the chat thing,social media etc,but sometimes its good to write,if only to read it and clear ya own mind.im a 60 year old comercial plasterer.got 3 girls,4 grankids wife.yep lucky.cancer? yep par for the course.bad diet? not realy.couple bottles of red on weekend so not alot.just my turn i suppose.chemo an oral drugs made me feel like crap,oncologist stopped em any way so feel better,just doing the steroids so eat well.death? well i cant stop that,even if i was well so no point harping on to myself about it.one day is one day longer.going back to work monday as keeps my mind off things,just keep going people,dont give it up coz someone else in a white coat looks abit sad,plough on,be good be lucky.

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    Hi there,

    Welcome to our forum. I am so sorry to hear of the hand you've been dealt, but applaud your attitude. We only get the one chance at life and, we might as well live it to the full.

    Make as many memories as you can with that wonderful family of yours. A positive attitude is a great help in these situations and worry doesn't make things any better.

    Wishing you well on your journey. Remember, we are always here for the bad days as well as the good. Please keep in touch.

    Kindest regards,

    Jolamine 

  • It's rubbish, it's wrong and it certainly isn't fair for both yourself and your family.   But who said life is fair?! who said you have to be strong, who said you can't have bad days... and who said chatting about it doesn't help??

    There's people out there for you buddy! There's things you can do to make it easier on those your leaving behind.  Don't do the bloke thing and ignore the situation... make sure they all know exactly how proud of them you are, even if you have to tell them ten times, make sure they know how much you loved them, and try to leave them with as many good memories as you can.

     

  • im not ignoring anything,im dying an im stepping up to the plate,its not about being a bloke,just being honest with myself.my loved ones will carry on,i just wont be there.

  • Good to know that you are facing this head on. 

    Have you decided about your end of life care - do you want to die at home or in a hospice? Don’t leave it too late to decide or to make arrangements or you risk dying on a busy hospital ward which can be very grim for you and your family. MacMillan and Marie Curie will be useful for helping get the arrangements in place - especially pain relief which makes all the difference. 

    Good luck

    Dave

  • I hope you are in a good place... I don't know you and I'm not here to judge.  
     

    just share experiences and hope they help others and myself by talking. 
     

    the posts you made reminded me of a friend... ex-army, factual in his writing.   Has a problem, gets on with it... doesn't ask for help.  In fact makes clear he doesn't want it.  
     

    But dig deep and he does... and the help when he gets it, brings helps him mentally and physically so much. 
     

    But that's not you... 

    anyway... enough digging from me... if you want to chat I'm here... my dad died of cancer (not far off your age)   So if you have any questions about what it's like for your family etc . I'm happy to be honest with you and share my experiences.  I had a friend who went through the same and helped me through the unknown, so if I can help others by sharing, I'm going to.

    I think you looking for other people with cancer to chat to? But again I'm here if you want to talk !

     

    take care!