My dad had same, he was around about 18 months from diagnosis. He always loved food and one day couldn't eat much.  It is individual, his non eating was due to a secondary tumour, but not eating is always a worry.  If you can spend time with him and they advise to do so,  I think he would appreciate it xxxx

Daisy thank you so much for reply. I really appreciate it. Thank you also for sharing your experience. He has palliative care nurses visiting today so I am hoping to be able to know more. Even though I knew days like this were coming it still feels like a shock. 

Honestly just having you reply has made my day.

Thank you xxx

It is a shock, and something most of us will never be ready for,  no matter what.  I hope things went ok today, and you get to visit when the time is right x

Hi Nancy

My brother has prostate cancer that has spread to the bones and is now too ill for treatment other than blood transfusions. The cancer has invaded his bone marrow and this, along with his previous chemo and hormone treatment means he cannot produce enough blood. I expect this is the same for your Dad. This makes him very tired. he has a blood test every 2 weeks and just about manages to last this long before a transfusion. However, these days they don't seem to be having much effect. He is also sweating again very much- especially at night. Sage supplements from 'Menoforce'- you can get them on Amazon and Holland and Barratt have previously helped a lot, but do take a month or two to kick in.

I am sorry to say this, but that I think you should visit him. It is allowed under the rules to visit and care for people in this situation. I saw my brother yesterday and again today. My brother was given 3-4 months to live back in March. It is a shame your Dad is not getting out of bed. My brother is not eating much, especially if he is alone all day. I think we both need to be brave as neither of our situations look good. My brother survived COVID as well- thanks to his steroids for the cancer, I think. I lost my dear Dad many years ago and sympathise so much with you, but happy memories get me through. Again, I feel you should consider visiting him if possible. I have visited my 97 year old Mum in a care home a few times and by being careful, have not given her any germs! Lots of love to you. xxxxxxx

Thank you so much for your reply. Honestly I have been feeling so lost that I really needed this. 

Also great info on the visiting, we have pain management nurse coming today and I have ordered all the PPE I can so definitely heading up later.

I am so pleased that you are getting time with your brother, the information you have given me is a great insight for me. I hope he is comfortable. Plus he beat covid he sounds like a strong man.

Thanks again. So appreciated it xxxx