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Shell86
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Hi

Lost post ahead sorry...

4 weeks ago we was told my mum has secondary metastases cancer to the liver and lungs, fast forward to yesterday ( her 60th birthday) we was told the primary is still unknown but possibly coming from the bile ducts, my mum asked how long she has with and without treatment, the docs were very quick to tell us which scared me more if I'm honest, basically she has 3 months without treatment and possible 9 months with chemo but as it stands atm her chest isnt strong enough to handle the chemo and they will *** her again in 2 weeks they also said we need to prepare ourselves that chemo might not be an option last night I had to sit down and tell my 8 year old that she will lose her nanna! I also recently found out I was pregnant.... knowing my unborn baby might not see its nanna is killing me, I'm struggling so bad I feel like I'm going to explode, I'm scared of losing my baby because I'm so stressed and emotional but I just can not calm down...how will I live without my mum

  • Hello Shell86

    I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis and at this point the Consultants have not been able to confirm the primary. It's understandable that you're feeling so emotional and overwhelmed by everything. 

    I'm sure that it was a difficult conversation to have with your daughter and I hope that she is coping OK with the news. It may be worth letting her teacher know the situation so that they can offer her additional support at school as well. 

    Sometimes it can help to talk to someone outside of family or friends and I wonder if speaking to one of our team of nurses might help you. I'm sure that they will be able to offer some advice and support. If you'd like to speak to them they are available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    As difficult as this all is, it's important to take care of yourself as well so do keep posting here on the forum if it helps to write down how you're feeling. I know that the community members here will offer their support and advice when they're able too as well. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator

     

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