Hello,

I've been reading a few posts on here recently and thought I'd post my own.

My dad is 84. Has extremely progressed Alzheimer's and Dementia already and on 10th July this year was diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer which had spread to liver, lymph nodes and the hospital also believed quite possibly to the lungs aswell-but couldn't be sure I. The latter.

So here we are, 7 weeks later, and oh my God has he deterioted rapidly! He's approx 6 / 7 stone in weight.

Never is a million years did I expect to see this or be going through this, as we thought the Alzheimer's and dementia is what would eventually take him.

He has gone down to approx 6 stone now. 
He is just laid in bed In his nursing home. Won't accept food, won't accept water, won't take his prescribed medication. 
I have been told numerous times now ' he might not make it through the night'.... But bless him, he is still going....

I am fearful we really are closing in to the end now... Especially as he refuses to open his mouth... and he is sleeping a hell of a lot now...

Are we talking hours?? Or days still at this point?

To be on 'standby' as the home keep saying, as due to Covid and all that,is killing us.  We can't even sit with him all day.. just an hour at a time..

it's so hard for me and my mum...

we are trying to be strong for each other.... But this is really testing us. 

We're struggling to sleep, our emotions are all over the place and we are broken hearted that the end is near......

To just constantly be on 'standby'  is bloody hard! 
 

Alix 

:-(