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What do you get your dad for fathers day when he's dying?

Sophieink
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Hi there, 

I'm not usually one to reach out I usually like to keep myself to myself however I'm stuck and don't know what to do or get. I'm usually quite good with gifts and at the end of the day I don't wait for 'fathers day' to tell my dad I love him. It's never been something we take very seriously but always do something fun out and about. 

My dad can't go out now, even if there wasn't a pandemic he wouldn't manage it. He barely can make it out of bed most days. He's not eating much so baking isn't really an option and the brain tumour has made his eye sight suffer so he can't read anymore. I haven't seen him properly in weeks and his condition is getting worse which is scaring me. 

I feel like if I don't do anything for fathers day then hell feel unappreciated or not normal but I have no clue what I could even do. 

So I'm just looking for any advice or suggestions I guess. 

Thanks guys 

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    Hi Sophie, 

    It sucks, I'm in a similar boat with my beloved mom. Here are a few things we did over mother's day (May in Canada) and her Birthday in June. 

     

    - bought a bunch of fireworks

    - flowers, lots of flowers and helped do up the garden because she has an amazing garden she loves but unable to do it herself

    - Made beef wellington and spelt M<3M out with the puff pastry on the top

    - recreated a Momma Mia song catering it to my mom 

    - read her cards

    - you could also reach out to some of his friends and family and ask them to record short videos for you to put into a compilation 

    - 'day at the spa' - facials (even for men) can be very relaxing (massages not great for metastatic disease)

    - organise friends and family to visit in short intervals

    - LIke you, i always tell my mom how much she means to me, i've temporarily come home to be with her and sit by her bed or the couch and hold her hand

    - try to make her laugh, tell jokes, be silly, dance! 

    - Bring old photoalbums, watch home videos 

     

    If you're able the best gift you can probably give is time and laughs.

     

    xx

    much love 

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