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My mother has been given 3 months to live...distraught...

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Hi all, just looking to find some people to relate with honestly! 

My mum has been given 3 months to love following a year and 3/4 fight with Ovarian Cancer. Although I'm staying strong at the moment, I am honestly distraught right now. 

I'm an only child and my mum is the closest person I have in my life...my life purpose was to protect my mother and make her smile...

I wrote her a letter expressing all my feelings and my spiritual beliefs in reincarnation/many-worlds/whatever lies beyond...that I KNOW we will meet again, that our love is eternal. So she knows how much I care...

And I will admit the days are getting slightly easier now as my family, friends and even my mum give me strength, but I'm still worried about what life will be like without my best friend...we're like two peas in a pod...

Hope you can help guys.

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    Hi. I am not in the same situation but I am sat here in my greenhouse in tears because my best friend since I was 11 has been diagnosed with probably terminal cancer. She's only 45 and if she dies it will be like she's taking a piece of me with her. She was only diagnosed Tuesday and after a CT scan Friday they are talking about emergency treatment to buy her more time.

    I am so sorry about your Mum. All I can say is that you've had this wonderful relationship and that your Mum would want you to discover a whole new purpose in life after she has gone. Sending you a hug

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    Hi Jo, right back at you with the hugs! :) 

    I'm truly sorry about your friend, this is a horrible disease. On the bright side I'm sure your friend knows how much you care! 

    Whatbcalmed me down is the thought of death being a natural part of life that everyone goes through in some way. It sounds harsh at first but it is very soothing when you meditate on that statement.

    And there's also great new therapies for different cancers coming out all the time so you never know! 

    Either way, best of luck and to you and your friend! :) 

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    Hi honey ,

     You speak about your mum like i feel about my dad :happy: . I am not an only child but have always been a daddys girl  and right now have reverted back to calling him my daddy again  as he has been given weeks left with terminal bowel cancer .

    I am also like you ,strong upfront for him and my mum and sister  and helping plus bantering with him like we used to but inside -  a mess  . As you say when life is here without my daddy i feel i will fall apart and until then i cannot cry very much as i wont get back together. 

    Sending all my love to you :love:

       pinknotts 

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