Lung cancer - 4 weeks to live

Hello, my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer recently and everything has deteriorated so quickly. Within a couple of months, he is now in a hospice. We found out that he only has weeks to live. It's so hard to take in, a few months ago we didnt even know he was living with this illness. To make matters worse, I cant see him due to coronavirus and I'm so scared that I wont be able to see him. 

I'm praying the lockdown in Scotland eases slightly in the coming weeks, but I dont think we'd be allowed to see him. Does anyone have the same experience with hospices and coronavirus? Thanks 

  • Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... it's even made cruler with carona ..  I have a granddaughter going through cancer treatment at the mo, and can't see her, or even give a hug ... so I know how this is making a bad situation worse....  

    Have they said you can't go see him ... I thought those on end of life were given the right to see them, to say their last words .. but although it's little comfort, I've seen they take lots of time to hold their hands, and make it as kind as possible in hospices... 

    Fingers crossed, it eases up enough for you to visit ... is it possible to get some proper masks ... P P E  for that ?   The only other thing is get a I pad or tablet, and set up "what's ap "  where at least you can face time, and he can hear your voices ... it's not as good, but at least you can see them on screan.. that's what we do with granddaughter... 

    Sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie xx

  • I am so sorry for your situation. I thought that relatives were now allowed to spend time with a dying family member? I don't know if there's anyway you can but I'd be tempted to break lockdown. I've just found out my best friend probably has terminal cancer and I am thinking myself how I can go and see her xx

  • I'm so very sorry to hear of this. My understanding was that you could visit relatives in a hospice?  It's an unbelievably cruel situation to be in.  If you are able to, I would do it. xx