Hello Eilidh, I was in your Dad's shoes not so long ago and I'm very sorry that you and your family are going through this. My beloved younger brother passed away on 3rd Feb this year from oral cancer that had spread to his spine and brain. He turned 45 only 13 days before he passed away. My advice to you is to try not to take too much your own shoulders, this is a terrible thing to deal with at any age, I'm 52, have two children and run a business and I completely fell to pieces. Things are obviously very difficult with the corona virus situation right now and I don't know if that will mean you cannot visit your uncle. If you can visit then just sit with him and hold his hand, tell him he's the best uncle ever and you love him very much. If you aren't able to visit maybe write him a letter or send in a photo of you both together. As for supporting your Dad, make sure he's looking after himself, make him a sandwich if he forgets to eat. He also needs you to sit next to him and hold his hand, ask him about memories of when he and his brother were little, I'll bet there are some stories ! My eldest daughter (she's 19) came with me to visit when she was able, she took some photos with her phone (we didn't realise as her phone is always in her hand !) and she caught some incredibly emotional photos that I absolutely treasure now although they break my heart at the same time. Can I just say how amazing you are to come on this forum to ask for advice, so mature and thoughtful. You and your family will be in my thoughts, take care x

My uncle has just died from skin cancer and i dont know what to do. The last thing I ever said to him was bye i love you. I did not see him on his last day. :(

Hi everyone. It is almost impossible to answer a question like this. The fear we hold inside of us of our love ones final moments in this world we call home, is so difficult to let go.

As you reach my age [70] those final breaths have been seen a tad too often, but allow us to understand that our stay here is always temporary. But to hold your loved one & tell them you love them is as good a last chat you can have. My dad was a WW2 vet & it was something he held all his life. I said to him as the last chat 'dad you done a really big thing in the war, he smiled saying 'yeah I did'. That meant something to him.

There is a quote from Richard Bach I hold close & think of it at those tough times.

'Don't be dismayed at goodbyes. farewell is neccsesery  before you can meet again. And meeting again after moments or lifetimes, is certain for friends'.

I hope this helps