My Grandads dieing

My Grandad has been sick for about 10 weeks, after tests and stuff its determined hes got Lung Cancer .  Last few days hes got really I'll and the Mcmillian nurses some to put a driver in.  Hes not awake his breathing is terrible and he looks like a skeleton. It's horrible to see my nan who is 94 suffering watching her husband like this.  She keeps saying hurry up take your last breath.  Because she dont want him in pain.  Nurses said it's only a matter of time . Theres loads things I wanna ask my grandad and now I'll never get chance,  I'll miss his dirty jokes and telling my girl to come sit on his knee. Most.of.all how will my nan cope. 

  • Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment...

    But one thing I was told, is hearing is the last thing to go, and even when you think, they are sleeping, they can still hear you ... so you go, hold his hand and tell him all that's in your heart .. I'd tell him, thank you for having a wicked sense of humour.... he sounds wonderfull .. 

    Sending you all a vertual hug... Chrissie x

  • Thankyou chrissie, I cant look at him without getting upset . I only lost my mum 18 months ago . Hea a amazing man who Tells the funniest jokes . Seeing him now makes me wanna just go home x

  • You know, you won't loose that amazing grandad... you can keep him safely tucked up in your heart and take him with you .. l lost all my close family while in my 30s... but 30 years on, all my grandkids know about my grandparents and my mum and dad... my two lads still put pictures of her on their face book , even now .. so their nan who had a wicked sense of humour too, is still around us all ... 

    Even my granddaughter picks up white feathers and says it's from her daddy's nanny ... and she's only 6 when she started doing that .. 

    It sounds like you've got a lifetime of memories , and if you take what he taught you, that's to take him with you, but I bet he'd tell you to, live, love and more then anything laugh .. he gave you the gift of laughter .. and taking him and those things he gave you through life, he'll look down, and say .. how proud he is of that amazing grandson ... you were blessed to have had him so long ... 

    I adore my granddaughter,  and if this cancer takes me, that's what I'd want for her, and she's only 8 now .. to remember the laughter...  xx

  • How do I get over I'm.never gonna see him again.  I'm.not even over me mum 

  • Slowly ... oh so slowly ... we all need to grieve ... it's just taking one day at a time ... it's telling yourself it's o.k to feel, whatever you need to feel .. but right now, stop looking forward ... my mum died suddenly from a heart attack and I had no chance to even tell her I was so proud to be her daughter... she was just gone ... you have that time I never got ..

    So stay in the day .. every hour is a gift .. just get through the day .. tomorrow will take care of itself ... don't waste a minute ... you'll be o.k ... if you do everything in balance ... 

    Right now I have a 18 year old granddaughter just going into her third round of chemo ... I've just lost my sister last month .. and a niece to cystic fibrosis a few months ago .. we just do the best we can .. hold on .. and that's all we can do .. Chrissie x