Dad dying

My dad is in South Africa and is dying of lung cancer.

Due to the lockdown I can't get to him, and I will probably not be able to say goodbye. I've been trying to video call, but be is very confused, breathless and angry.

Im his only child and the guilt is killing me not being there, looking after him, holding his hand when he dies. Right now I'm holding it together, ( I have two young children).

I don't want to totally fall apart, but I'm really struggling.

  • GigiD, please do not think you are on your own.  I want to be able to offer you something but I am in the same situation albeit less distance and i honestly do not know what to do with myself. I am one of two children but i have three young children myself. I found your post while trying to find some comfort at this time. I hope you find some in knowing you really aren't alone even if you feel it now. Please take care, xxxx

  • Gts1978, thank you so much I really appreciate it. And I'm so very sorry you are going through the same thing. I've always thought at least if someone you love has Cancer, you can at least be prepared to be there for them and comfort them, hold their hand through it. That this has been taken away, is really distressing me. 
     

    My dad might only have a week left, and than the thought of not even being able to go to a funeral, really feels like a nightmare. My thoughts go out to you, hope you can find some peace in this very difficult time.