Oh gosh my sister is dying I am honestly devastated, not sure how I'm going to get through the next chapter at all. One of the best will be taken way to soon how do you all get through this? X
Welcome to Cancer Chat although I'm so sorry to read about your sister. I can only imagine how incredibly tough this must be and I hope you're OK.
Please know there is support available. If you haven't already, it might be helpful to check out Macmillan support.
We are always here for support on this forum too - by all means use this as a safe space and an outlet to write down any thoughts or worries, and to speak to others who understand.
I'd encourage you to browse the forum for any similar discussions, particularly if you don't get further replies to this post, as there may be other people you can speak to.
Take things one day at a time and be sure to take care of yourself - and as I say we're always here for support.
I am so sorry to hear about your sister. I am going through the same as yourself . I know exactly how you are feeling. I am just trying to take things day by day and pray for the strength for me and my brother' and all his family at this time. It's even more difficult with covid 19
Stay safe and keep in touch. It sometimes helps to chat with someone who is going through the same thing x
Thank you for the reply, i know covid 19 is not helping at all. We are unable to make memories although I do treasure the ones I already have. Like you say I have to take one day at a time, not sure about you but some days are much harder than others. You just never ever think these situations are going to happen to your family, i absolutely salute anyone that stays so positive I just don't have the strength to do that. Maybe one day
I lost my dad on Friday to cancer. I cannot lie to you, it was the hardest thing I have ever done, but it can only be done one day at a time. When things came to the end it was one hour at a time. I did anything to make him happy, ran around all over buying things he fancied to eat/drink. We brought him downstairs everyday and back up every night, it took all of our strength but mentally and physically. It was so hard, but we took every opportunity to laugh! When he became confused we laughed when he saw us on the TV, when things were flying past, it may sound mean but it's all we had.
I take great comfort in knowing he didn't know what was happening in his final few days. He was in a bubble of craziness and he seemed to like it. He slept a lot in his final 2 days and didn't Really open his eyes. His breathing slowed right down and then just stopped, it was peaceful and calm.
I felt I didn't know what to expect so it was all totally scary. I'm 24 and so 2 of my grandparents died when I was very young and I still have my other 2. This was my first real experience of death and it was so intense, as he was at home until the end.
when I look back I don't know how I made it though. But I think it was just all for him and taking it day by day. The love I have for his brought me though. Xx
