Hi, found out today I have terminal cancer. Cant stop hot and cold waves of panic. I feel claustrophobic and numb. How can I calm down? Will be home tomorrow with my family and I dont know how to support them whilst I'm in such a state.
The waiting is horrible I know. I have a phone call about breast biopsies on Friday and have also had tests on lungs recently and breast lump was found incidentally from that
I have sent you a friend request if you'd like to chat to me privately. I'm 49 with 2 children at home so not far off your age. No obligation to accept it or to chat of course.
i have read some of your replies here and I have to say how strong and inspiring you are the way you care for your wife and with everything you deal with regarding your own cancer and health. It really does bring me hope. I don't have cancer but Mum does and I hope mum will have the strength to fight.
I have found your post to be extremely uplifting as it gives hope to so many cancer patients and their families on just how important positive feelings count, my heart goes out to your dad and all the family. My dad is unfortunately in a dire situation, bowel cancer operated on, 6 months chemo, spread to lymph nodes, now stage 4 cancer stomach and liver and in blood stream, been given 2-6 months a month ago, looking on here for help as he has nsusea & stomach pain with bloating, wondering if this mesns the end is near? to prepare ourselves- do you mind me asking what cancer your dad has please?
best wishes always & love to all here
i would also like to say how much you are all helping me, especially hearing the very truthful accounts of how the people in the unbearable position of not only hearing of your awful diagnosis in this terrible time but how you are afraid to face your family in order to support them! wow that floored me as i am a family member and hadn't considered my dad having this worry, it was all about how would i cope supporting him, you are amazingly inspirational and I thank you, very best wishes to you.
Like you I'm also on here looking for answers, my dad was diagnosed on Tuesday with stomach cancer that has spread to his liver and was told he has about 6 more months- to say the bottom fell out of my world is an understatement. What I'm finding so difficult to comprehend is the fact that he is seemingly so well. He does have bouts where for a couple of days he feels very tired and vomits and does have stomach pain but then it goes away and he seems fine. He is 72 and quite active spending hours at his allotment. I'm clinging onto what you said about your father still thankfully being here 4 years on, what cancer does he have, if you don't mind me asking?
My father was diagnosed just before his 70th birthday with cancerous tumours on his lungs so large they could not be removed or treated. 6 years previously he had a melonoma tumour removed from his eye (they took his eye away and gave him a false one). There was no follow up treatment afterwards as he was told they had taken all the tumour away but the tumours they found on his lungs were actually melonoma tumours so it was secondry cancer on is lungs that had travelled from the eye. We celebrated his 70th thinking it would be his last birthday but here he still is! We are about to have his 74th! He was put on a couple of trial drugs to start with but they didnt help or made him so poorly so he stopped them. We went down the health food route and he has always taken tumeric, bicarb of soda with hot water and lemon, manuka honey etc. If you google it you will find out the different things they recommend to help cancer patients. Most importantly we gave him canabis oil for about 2 years and we are convinced that this kept his tumours from growing too fast and spreading too fast. We reckon this definately added a couple of years to his life without doubt. He no longer takes it as he's well past that stage of trying to keep the tumpurs under control but he still has a positive mental attitute and is already planning on a little holiday later this year when we let him out of the house. We've always had something planned for him to look forward to like little weekends away with the family and this always gives him something to look forward to and focus on which also helps. I hope some of this is useful to you and good luck with your dad.x
On the subject of cannabis oil, I thought I would share this link from our website on cannabis and cancer. It is crucial for anyone considering taking any type of supplement or complementary therapy to talk to their cancer specialist as these may otherwise have adverse effects or interfere with cancer treatment. You can also read more about the difference between alternative and complementary therapies on this page.
I know the feeling I have also been diagnosed with terminal cancer ...feel so numb and scared and heartbroken for my family just feel I need to talk to people in same situation
I'm three years down the line from being told that I have terminal cancer and was unlikely to even make it out of surgery for removal of a large tumour.
It hasn't been an easy ride and I have been in and out of hospital for various procedures. I am as positive as I can be and my family and 'real' friends have been there for me.
I have made it my mission to always have something nice to look forward to (even during a year of lockdown). I also set two goals; to out live my mum (she's 82) and have grandchildren. So far so good. My two daughters have got married in the past three years and my mum is still fighting fit. Her aim is now to stay alive as long as possible, just so that I keep going.
I know it's hard to stay optimistic. When you are feeling low, stop! and put on your favourite foot tapping, hand clapping music.
Stay positive and beat the odds! Find something really nice to look forward to. My chemo starts next week and looking on the bright side I will save time not having to shave and I can buy a couple of hats for the summer and a pint of diet Coke in (outside) the pub next week
