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Dad has been given three months

sarahwebbo
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Hi 

My dad has just tunred 68 and was diagnosed with secondary cancer in the liver (Uveal Melonoma), 6 years after he first had an occurance in his eye.  All the consultant could offer him was Immunotherapy.  He had one round of treatment but the cancer has grown aggressively in the liver, the blood supply is severely comprimised and he was told yesterday (on my parents 47th wedding anniversary) that there was nothing else that can be done and he will be handed over to the pallative care team.  The consultant gave him roughly 3 months.  

We are all devestated.  My Mum doesn;t know what she will do without him.  My dad is petrified of having a painful death.  I,ve heard so much about CBD oil, and while I'm under no illusion it will cure my dad I'm hoping it could help ease some of the pain.  The information on the internet is overwhelming.  Does anyone have any first hand experience of using it effectively please?

Many thanks

Sarah 

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    Hello Sarah, 

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad I can understand why this is devastating news for you and it must be incredibly difficult for your mum. You are right when you say that the information on CBD oil can be overwhelming on the internet and it can also be inaccurate. I thought I would share with you our page on cannabis and CBD oil which I think explains things clearly and succintly. I hope that it will be helpful to you and if you are considering CBD oil, it would be important too to talk to your dad's medical team about it and see what they think about it. 

    Very best wishes to you, your dad and all your family during this difficult time, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

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    I would not pin your hopes on cbd oil. Modern medication will ensure the patient will not be in pain.  Make arrangements for a hospice as the wonderful staff will do a superb job keeping your dad comfortable. 

    Please concentrate on the time you have together.

     

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    Hi Sarah,

    Can't help with CBD, but wanted to say you're not alone.

    My incredibly active and healthy 76yo Mum had some tummy pain in September. 2 weeks later I got a 3AM phone call from my brother. She'd had emergency surgery for a suspected bowl blockage the day before, but when they went in they found stage 4 colon cancer throughout her abdomen. ?!

    6 days later I was on a plane. A few days after that we heard the word "terminal" for the first time. Even though we'd all been thinking it, it was still a shock when it became "real".!

    But then there were things to do to slow it down, this chemo, that chemo, an adjuvant, maybe immunotherapy, and she probably had 2-4 years to live, so that was NOT VERY LONG AT ALL... More than a lot of people get... Something to be treasured... (Now it seems like forever.)

    Appointments filled the days, and at night we talked and watched documentaries. She had the first round of chemo, and when the nausea stopped we went out to dinner. I had to go home after 27 days, and the time had gone so fast, but I'd come back soon. 

    Everything was fine (OK, chemo's never fine) until a few weeks ago. A pain? There? Hmm. UltrasoundCTScanTestTestTest Uh oh. Nothing is fine, in any way, and it feels like it never will be again (I know, that's grief being dramatic). She called 10 days ago. Chemo-resistant, extremely aggressive, large nodule in liver, no trials right now...

    Next week I'm flying there to do whatever I can to make this time count. 3 months seemed shockingly short a few weeks ago. By the time I get there it'll be 2. 

    Wait, what?

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