How to identify the end of life (unoperational brain tomour)

My mother in law has diagnosed an unoperational, large brain tomour on her left side of the brain. Because of its location and the age of her the surgeon did not recommend any treatment except giving her steroid to ease her life, in other words it has left its own courses. We are living about 600 miles away from where she lives. She wanted to return to her home from the hospital. She lives alone. She has a care plan: carers come 4 times a day. Her mobility is limited, only possible with walking aid and limited walking in the house. A district nurse visits her once a week to make sure her health is ok. 

We would like to spend her last days with her. As everybody else we are working. The distance and our employment limit our visit to her and spend time with her. 

It is really important for us to know how to know/identify end of the life symptoms. Would you please share with me your experience. We would like to spend with her at least a week before she leaves us. I know how difficult to guess this. But if you are able to help us we are very much appreciated this.

Thanking in advice.. Sam

  • Hello Sam, 

    I am so sorry to hear your mum in law has been diagnosed with a brain tumour and that there is no treatment available to her apart from the steroids. It must be very stressful for you as you live so far away but it's good that she has a care plan in place with carers coming 4 times a day and weekly visits from the district nurse to make sure her health is ok. 

    It's so nice of you that despite living 600 miles away and your work commitments, you would like to spend her last days with her. As you rightly say, it is really difficult to guess or predict sadly when she might be approaching the end of her life. However, we have some information on our website on this which might be useful to you. We have a page on what happens if your brain tumour can't be cured which you can find here and which contains a section on what happens at the end. You will also find detailed information on Dying with Cancer including a section on 'The last few weeks and days' on this page

    Hopefully you will also hear from some of our members here who have been in a similar situation and had to be by a loved one's bedside at the very end. Even though everyone's experience is different, it helps to know that you are not alone and that others here will understand how you are feeling at the moment. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator