Hi there ..

So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... it must feel like your in a nightmare ... 

I lost my mum suddenly from a heart attack and I had no chance to even tell her I was so proud to be her daughter or one more I love her ..  what I'd have given for one day, or even one hour .. so I'd say, take these few days to tell her all that's in your heart... even if she's sleeping they say they can still hear .. hold her hand .. make every second count ... 

Yes it's one of the hardest things we do .. but try to live in the day .. some hold on longer then expected.. others go quicker .. so it's an estimate they give you ..

Sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie xx 

I was told my mum had couple days left on 14th Feb. Broken hearted I prepared for the worst. Mum is still here. She's a fighter. She's eating drinking and talking like she's going to get better and it's messing with my head seeing her and knowing she is going to die but the not knowing when or how as she seems so good at the moment. 

hello, 

its hard watching someone who you have been told is going to pass away but they chat and eat and drink normally i looked after my dad and even on his final day on earth he was drinking milk he even had 3 pints of the stuff.. but there was signs he wouldnt be with us for long, signs you dont normally look for so dont see, which i researched and they helped me but if your not in a strong place dont google them.. i did a daily check for signs it became my obsession but in the end he passed during the night with a nightnurse staying over, the family cared for dad from 6am to 10pm then the night sitter came in, he died in his sleep with a smile on his face (he wouldnt have gone with any of us there i know that for sure) 

i think the stronger the heart the longer they fight... just spend as much time as possible with her and say all the things you want to because one day you wont be able to.. you are cursed with knowing she is going but this can be a blessing because you know you have to say what you need to say.. 

thoughts with you 

L x 

What sort of signs? Her blood pressure is low at times and she has a little oxygen. 
I was told she would sleep more and become less responsive and then just go but i was also told that it would be quick at the end. 
the cancer is in her breast, but spread to her lungs and jones and she has a mass on her lower spine 

with the scans they said she didn't have long but the other day they said it wasn't imminent and they didn't like to put a time on it. 
Sad times 

My mum is still with us. Eating and drinking but bed bound and on morphine. There is talk that she may be allowed home with full time nurses. I can't believe I was told 2 days a month ago and she seems to be going from strength to strength. It's really confusing and hard to watch as I feel when I come away from the hospital that she's getting better when in fact she could die anytime. That is the difficult part. The not knowing.