few months to live

Hi everyone, I’m really really breaking, my mum has been told she has a few months to live, she found out she had lung and liver cancer in August and she had 4 chemo treatments and then they stopped because of how much she had to be in hospital because of her weight loss and immune system being sooo low, I’m 19 and my mum is my rock it’s been me and her only since i was born, and I don’t know what to do, they said months and not how many so now I’m worrying that it could happen at any moment, when I found out about the cancer I didn’t actually think she’d be going so soon, I thought wow she can be cured a lot of people are cured but no I’m heartbroken and I don’t know how to cope. I don’t know to to make her feel better, can anyone give me any suggestions on things I can do for her, she’s so low on energy I can’t even take her out!

  • I am so so sorry you are going through this! Is there anyone else you have to talk to to lean on for support? 
    When my aunty was too unwell to go out she liked to do things like getting her nails painted and cuddling up to watch her favourite films. You could read some books or magazines together depending on her interests. The other advice I would give is please don't go through this alone. If the hospital or nurses offer extra support then do take it. Sending lots of love x

  • Please get as much support for yourself as you can it’s such a lot to be going through at only 19! Does your mum like massage? Could get some oil & give gentle hand massages. Any music she liked eg 80s, could make up s playlist. Watch tv together. If she’s up to it invite special people round for tea & cake if your mum can’t get out. Contact your mums specialist nurse and ask if there is any support or contact local hospice services. I’m going through this with my dad. Your mum will really appreciate you just being there fir her & you are helping her more than you probably realise. Take care ️

  • Hi c.b.x19

    how are you? And how is your mum? 
    Im so sorry you're facing such an awful time and I really do hope you have some support and people around you you can lean on. 
    please do message if you'd like a chat, I'm in a very similar situation. 
    take care x