Hi everyone,
my dad has recently been told his cancer has spread further and there is no more that can be done for him. He has been referred to palliative care and we are waiting for them to contact us.
He was diagnosed with metastatic colon cancer to the liver in may 2018, he was told approx 6 months without chemo and 'some years' with treatment. He went on to have chemotherapy which was successful up until 3 months ago, he was then given a break and got his latest scan results yesterday which was bad news.
I just wanted to know if anyone had experience with this, he was told on average people with this stage of cancer live for approx 4/5 months, however it could be earlier and could also go on to live longer, it was only an average and obviously no exact time could be given.
to look at my dad and talk to him you wouldn't even know he was sick, he still looks well, talks, laughs, jokes (I know he is pretending in front of us that he is ok) but I can't get my head around the fact that he is dying.... he doesn't look like he is dying.
when will this start to happen? And how will I know when he needs a doctor and when he doesn't. Who do I call if he is sick, I don't know if I ring the regular GP or someone else. Will it be all of a sudden or will we know when his time is close? I'm scared to go anywhere or be away from him incase something happens unexpectedly.
My head is scrambled with it all and my heart is absolutely broken. I don't know how people manage to cope with this stuff but I feel like I'm falling apart and I don't know how I can come back from this.
thank you! x