Mum is dying - I don’t know what to do.

Hi. So, as the title says, my mum was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer on 15th January. It's already spread to her liver, and her doctor says it's inoperable and incurable. He's estimated she has between a few months to a year left, and has started her on chemo to try and alleviate the symptoms and give her more time.

 

but I just don't know what to do. It's just me and my mum - we don't have any other family. I'm 28 so I should be okay in general, but I don't know what to say to her or how to cope and I'm just not talking about it because every time I do I start crying. My dad died from leukaemia when I was 15, so I've done it before, but I'm terrified of mum dying because I'll be completely alone. I have friends, I know I do, but it's different. 

  • Hi,

    I'm so sorry you & your mum are going through this and you have no other family to lean on. If you haven't already can I suggest you contact your nearest Macmillan or Maggies Centre. They provide support for patients and carers and I'm sure they will be able to give you advice - they also provide counselling if you think it may help. www.macmillan.org.uk/.../emotional-help

    Best wishes to you both,

    Angie

  • Hi may I say you will never be alone even though it feels like it. You have friends and you must ask them to support you through this difficult time  and if they are real friends then they will. Your mum is your mum so speak to her as you would do normally because you have at present a normal mother/ daughter relationship so why should it be different even though it is. Please live your life as normal as i'm sure your loving mum would like this for you and see her when you can, but please remember you have a life and must live in the present as you are important to yourself firstly and your mum secondly, as if you lose it where does that leave your mum, sorry but I have to be honest. You will be guided through the last stages of your mum's departure from this earth plane and those in care of your mum will help you also, so please know help is there for you as well as your mum, God Bless, you are in my prayers.