Hello Melon36, 

This is so sad I can imagine it must be so hard to watch your poor dad every day poor him not having eaten since Christmas day he must be really frail by now. It must be draining and exhausting for you and your mum it's good though that he isn't in any pain and only on minimal drugs.

I can imagine this is just too awful for you to watch and that it must be so difficult to have to juggle being by his side whilst having two young children to look after and a job. It is important that you find time to breathe a little and more importantly to rest. You need those batteries recharged to be able to look after your children or do your job properly. I can understand why at the moment you may feel that you don't want to go to work but as you say it is difficult to be off for weeks on end. You are already doing a lot supporting your mum during this particularly painful time. 

We have some useful information on our website on what to expect in those last few days and weeks which you can read here. Our section on dying with cancer may also be of interest to you and in particular focusing on your mum's needs and yours at the moment, it might be worth having a look at our page on caring for the carer when someone is dying. 

I will now let our other members come and share their experience with you. Many sadly have also had to watch a loved one die with cancer and I am sure they will have some advice or suggestions for you based on their own stories.

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator