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Hi I posted to the other topics but got no response 

Dad has prostate and now lung cancer and is told he'll not be able to have any treatment due to chronic emphysema. He's also supposed to be having biopsies on his stomach but he won't go now as he doesn't want more bad news. 

Can anyone please advise life expectancy with lung cancer and emphysema 

I'm going out of my mind with nobody to ask 

Thank you 

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    Hi there ...

    So sorry you've had little response... appart from moderators and nurses ... wer all just like you .. peop.e with or effected by cancer... we do try to answer as many as possible .. but some fall through the cracks as they go past so quickly ... 

    But I don't think I can answer your question .. I don't don't think anyone can give you a deffinate time or outcome ... you could have loads of people exactly the same sinario,  but they could all go on longer or shorter .. and no two are the same .. 

    My dad had emphysema... after being down the pits for 50 years .. so I understand how horrible that is .. and the effect it has on breathing ... 

    So the only advice I can give you, is take every day as it comes .. reach out to Marie Currie... they are here to help those in your dad's posistion and their families .. so look on their home page ... they have lots of knowledge of conditions then we do ... also hospices can be a great comfort .. ask about those close to you ... they can be a god send .. and that's where I'd like to end my days ..  

    You are going through such an emotional time , right now .. so try not to look at the whole picture .. live in the day ... make the most of this time .. share tears and hugs ... leave nothing unsaid ... and listen to your dad if he needs to talk of things that may be hard to hear, about what he wants ... 

    Let us know how you go ... hope that helps a tad ...  sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie x

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    Hi love,my mum is frail with lung cancer and now its in her brain x she as been given 6wks to a year ...shes in so much pain..i am not coping if am honest as my heart as broken ..cancer as completely taken her ...i really hope you all help each other at this sas time x

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    Thank you Chrissie

    I know nobody can give me a life expectancy time. Its just with not being able to have biopsies and other treatments, we are basicaly in limbo :-( 

    dad is a very private person who wont ask relevant questions and wont let anyone go with him so its doubly hard. He has been referred to the macmillan nurses for his breathing so at least he's seeing someone. 

    i may ask the nurses about it to see if i can get some clarity. we dont live in the same town so its hard not seeing him on a regular basis too. He has such a weak immune system i am scared he wont last that long with all this. I know we have to simply take each day as it comes, but not knowing what stage any of the cancers are is like a fog. 

    i will look at marie curries page also.

    many thanks and god bless you

    fluffy

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    To the person who replied to my post early this morning (sorry your name is not on the post)

    sorry to hear your sad news :-( it's such a crap disease isnt it. I am dreading my dad suffering. i really dont think i would cope with that. It seems like the hospital have just stopped all correspondance with him. Because he cant have any treatment, thats it!! meanwhile were left to sit and wait the inevitable.

    i do hope your mum doesnt suffer love. take care and prayers are with you. :-)

     

    fluffy

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    No one should suffer ! They have suffered enough! Get as much help & pain relief as you can! My thouhts are with you! Love goes out to you all! IU I can help help in any way , I will!

    Love to you all

    Bev

     

     

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    Hi Fluffy, it is a horrid thing isn't it. It sounds like you really need to get in touch with the pallitative care team locally, who will be able to provide advice about options and what can help, which might be at home help or other treatments not to cure, but to make more comfortable. But the other thing is that they can help the family and friends to have the conversations you and your Dad need to have with each other about what next....I will be forever grateful that we all knew this was what Mum wanted and that they had taken away her fears and ensured she was not suffering, and hospice teams allow us to get to that point if possible....so for all out there working with those coming towards the end (its a journey) and those who are grieving thank you...

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