Hi Priya and welcome to Cancer Chat.

I'm sorry about your mum's diagnosis but I'm glad that she's well at the moment.

I'm going to include some information we have on our website that gives a general outline about what may happen in the final stages but if you'd like to have a chat with someone about this then do give our cancer nurses a call. They're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. Hopefully some of our members will be along soon as well.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello, what can one say when the most important person in the world is ill.

I do not have the answer to that but I can say that you could tell her how much you love her and give her big hugs. It wll give her strength and that love will be shared.

It is a fightening time especialy as you may not understand all of what is going on around you. If you have other family, father, brothers, sisters, share your thoughts with them as they are all probably thinking the same thoughts as you and just as worried.

There are many help groups with telephone helplines to whom you can call, one being McMillan, they help both the paitent and family so perhaps give them a call. They will also be able to access particular information with mothers particular diagnosis... For some a prayer may help.

For some, "passing" is an easy process, it is just moving into a different stage, if you or your mother are religious, it may be easier to imagine moving closer to an all loving caring being. For others, it can be a painful and alarming experiance.

Perhaps calling a specialist charity like McMillan may be the best group to contact as they will be best suited to give genuine infirmation and be able to help you directly as they are suitably trained.  Another area of help for you would possibly be at your school. speak to your teacher who may be able to help by accessing a particular specialist to help you understand what is going on. also extended family grandmother grandfather or a special aunt.

At times like this it is easy to feel alone but many people have been in the same position as you. Please ensure that you speak to others for help. a problem shared is a problem halved.

You sound very grown up by seeking help. It will not be easy but mother has a loving caring daughter that I am sure she is very proud of.

God Bless Take care. You will both be in my prayers.

R