Getting information.

My dad is currently terminally ill and currently in hospital with cancer in many areas of his body. He does not want to know the timescale he has left, but my mother feels she needs to know so she can plan ahead. 

The doctors have said they cannot tell her this without his consent even though she is wife/carer to him.

Is this right and has anybody struggled with this before? We feel very in the dark with everything and it's making it so much harder to cope with.

  • Sorry about your dad, we are going through the same, but my dad is at home. He didn't want to know how long but my mum did, they asked his permission to tell my mum,  so she knows which has help her cope a little. Hope this may help. All the best 

  • I know that it sounds like your Dad is burying his head in the sand, but it he needs hope to carry on.  My wife is losing the battle but has decided that she doesn't want to know how long she has got just so she can keep planning for the normal things in life. The rest of the family can't see why she doesn't want to know and it's really upsetting them. Me l have an idea and it's cutting me in two, but you just have to carry on for their sake