Hello

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, on the 10th September so two days ago I lost my dad from terminal lung cancer and too went through exactly what you arenow. For two weeks we sat In the hospital just waiting for the inevitable, it truly is a living hell. I too wished for it to end for my dad and for us.

I have cried a lot but today I did not cry at all and I feel guilty for not crying but he wanted to go, he was diagnosed only four months ago but was already too far advanced, lung cancer is really a silent killer 

He was reduced to a wheelchair, catheter, weight loss and dribbling then two weeks ago went into hospital with a chest infection as he couldn't swallow properly and the food was going down into the lungs.

His swallowing went and he was put on pureed diet and thickened fluids, he did get over the initial infection but it resurfaced a few days later and his body gave up.

I have no real words for you because I don't have any for myself just we will get through this and come through the other side, both our parents will be at peace from what is a truly awful awful awful disease.

You are in my thoughts xx

I lost my lovely mum yesterday after 2 1/2 years battling Ovarian cancer.  this was the end I was dreading, but she litterally went to bed planning christmas and in the morning was yellow and in a confused state. the paramedics came and put her in the ambulance where she had a cardiac arrest from which she was not brought back.

I’m so relieved to not have gone through what you are going through, but her sudden passing when she was out having dinner two nights ago with me, has left be dumbfounded. I can’t comprehend it.  we had agreed to leave difficult conversations until it was definitely the end... now I havent had those conversations and I wish we had.

so in one way we are blessed that she didnt suffer any longer than necessary, but truamatised at this coming out of the blue.

I;m so sorry for what you are going through. my heart goes out to you xxx

Hi,

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. 

I'm in a similar situation.  We found out last week that my grandad has late stages of liver cancer and has just weeks left to live. 

He has stopped eating and just sipping water.  I'm down the hospital for 5-6 hours a day sitting with him, talking, holding his hand. 

Out of all my family, my grandad is who I'm closest to and it breaks my heart to see him deteriorate every day when he's always been such a strong person, having beat cancer twice before.

I have no idea how I will come to terms with this. 

Sorry to hear you've had a similar experience. It's just awful and nobody should have to go through this, especially those dying. 

My mum is still hanging on, we've worked out its almost 3 weeks since shes had any proper food 2 since her last tiny bit.

If this has taught me anything it's that she will never want me to give up on anything in life. She's doing this right to the end! .

My thoughts are with you and your family x

I'm sorry to hear about your grandad. I have a niece & nephew similar to you in that my mum is more like a mum than nana to them. They adore her & she has taught them so much in life and how to be a parent themselves.

I'm sure your grandad would want you to pick yourself up and carry on, keeping in mind everything he has taught you which sounds like it has made you the person you are.  He will always be with you ko matter what.

I had a bangle made with my mums heartbeat all the way round it. She will always be with me and her heart will beat forever. 

Hang in there, it's a very difficult time and remember to look after yourself x

Thanks Ash for your kind words.  How are you today? How is mum?

It’s a week today since mum passed. I’ve done the hard bit of booking her funeral and getting the death cert. Now just sitting with friends and family trying to deal with an overwhelming need to scream.  I haven’t been home yet since she died as my dad is in bits.

happy to chat by DM if you need a shoulder. Xxx

Thank you. 

I'm devastated to say that my wonderful grandad passed away on Saturday night in his sleep. 

My dad called me on the Sunday, I assumed to discuss what time we'd be going down to see him but he called a little earlier than usual and broke the news to me. 

I cried and cried, absolutely heartbroken that he'd been taken away from me and the rest of his family, but I also felt a sense of relief, as I knew how much he was suffering and he was also suffering from delirium, which was very difficult to deal with. I hated the thought of him being confused when we weren't there and it was so hard to see him like that. 

It still hasn't sunk into my mind that he's gone. 

He was such a lovely man, he had lots of friends, old and young. 

That's such a lovely idea getting a bracelet made of your mums heartbeat. I've got a few of my grandads things and put them in a box so I can look at them whenever I want and be reminded of the kind and gentle man that will be forever in my heart. 

If ever you need to talk, please reach out to me. I feel so alone at times x 

Hello.

My lovely mam passed away on Sunday.. she had no pain and was surrounded by all her family - just how she would have wanted.

I've been in work mode trying to make all the arrangements but today has been particularly hard. I know we will have good and bad days

I already miss her so much x

I'm so sorry to hear this. My mam joined him on Sunday. Sounds like he was as lovely as my mam so they are both in god company. 

Allow yourself time to grieve... it's a tough time. I'm taking one day at a time x