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Prolonged phase of dying

Andy1989
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Hi All

 

My stepmum Carol was told nearly 2 months ago that she was going to die within days. Over the past 2 months she has fought and is still fighting. The “signs” of impending death come and go, and some days she seems loads better than others. I just don’t want her to be in agony any more and wondered if anyone else had experienced a prolonged pre active stage of dying with their loved ones? 

 

Thanks in advance as I feel very alone coping with this xxxx

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    Hello.

    I understand how you feel, my dad was given 3-6 months to live in May and was told 1-2 short weeks nearly 3 weeks ago. He went downhill and deteriorated very quickly and I thought I was losing him but he has perked up in the last week or so. I am the same, it is the fear of the unknown. Sometimes he seems to be getting so much better and then crashes really quickly. I keep trying to find the answers and find out a way or predict the future. But the reality is, nobody knows, not even the doctors. I would hate for my dad to suffer but I have to face that I can’t change what fate has in store for him.

    I understand how you feel, just take it day by day is all I can say. 

     

     

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    Hi Andy. I'm afraid it's trial and error there's people on forum now hue we're given weeks years ago, it doesn't always happen but the specialist can only guess how long, so sorry I've probably not helped you, but it is the truth,.. Billy 

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