My dad

Hi, my Dad has been through so much in the last 3 years, he had open heart surgery, which whilst being scanned an aortic aneurism was found, subsequently another big op to repair, and kidney cancer, which after he recovered was removed, this unfortunately fired off cancer cells to his lungs, and has now moved secondaries to his bones! We are devastated, and know there is no help for him, my question is how long will he survive this for? He has fallen and fractured his pelvis in multiple places, and is just lying in a hospital bed! Nothing they can do, but have offered Radiotherapy, I’m not sure this is fair to put him through this, as he’s been through so much already?? 

  • Hi there ..

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment...  I think , and it's only my opinion , there's a time to fight cancer .. and a time to stop and make the most of every day .. your dad sounds like he's been through so so much... what does he think .. because at the end of the day it should be the patient that decides ... so much control is taken away from us .. to have the last word , when to stop, gives us back a little control ... he may choose either way ..let him lead you now ... hold his hand and support whatever he decides ...  

    Hopefully there's still memories you can make ... ask him about his childhood... bet theres lots you dont know ... just sit and chat .. listen to him .. he may need to talk about things hard to hear .. but youll be glad you did ...  sending you a vertual hug....  Chrissie x