Dear Andy909..

So sorry to read your news. My husband had the very same as you. In fact, he had 3 seperate liver resections followed by chemo. It gace him another 7 years of life. I will look forward to your reply and will follow your story. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Be positive

Kind regards Gillie

Thankyou for your post Gillie,

I'd be interested to know how the quality of life was in the extra 7 years of life your husband had.

Kind regards

Andy

Hi Andy909 

So sorry to read your news but please don't give in to this evil disease. My dad was told last August he had aggressive prostate cancer that had spread to some bone also his lympenodes he is 73 years old (still works) and wants to live a lot more years. We was all heart broken hearing this. But his oncologist was happy to throw everything at him. He had 18 weeks on chemo and has just last week finished radiotherapy. When we found out sleepless night kept me awake wondering desperately what could or might help him and I ended up reading hours upon hours about manuka honey. The very next day I bought some manuka honey from the supermarket and he started taking this everyday. He sailed through his chemo and radiotherapy (twice had upset tummy) but that was all. The chemo shrunk the cancer his levels that were high went down. We do not know as yet if the radiotherapy has helped. But he is full of life. I swear by the manuka honey. I know some will say I'm holding on to hope but I truly believe this has helped him. He has the 10+ manuka honey once a day in his porriage every morning. Please don't give up try the honey read up on it. Although his cancer will never be cured (so they say) he is living his life to the full. He has plans hoildays booked etc. I'm not trying to say honey is going to cure your cancer at all. But trying anything is gotta be worth it. Fight for yourself and your daughter. Don't give up if the drs have hope then please take your hope from them. I truly wish you all the best.

Hi Andy909, I'm going to come at your question from a different angle as I'm currently living with your problems as my husband has incurable lung cancer, ten years older than you and two years on after chemo and radiotherapy.  It's a tough fight to go on constantly being treated for something untreatable and not one person on here can relate to this unless they are living with it.  If you consider quality of life as being there for loved ones then you fight, if you don't want to do this then it's a brave decision to make and you should be respected for it.  At my lowest point last year I told my daughter that I wasn't sure we'd made the right decision going the chemo route, she replied but you've still got Dad, yes but not the husband I knew before cancer, she can't see that as she's only here a few days of the year.  I don't want to sound negative Andy,  this is your decision to make and there are a lot of pros and cons to weigh up.  Whatever you decide, I'm sure will be right for you.  Best wishes for the future Andy,  Carol

thankyou for your post

Andy

Thankyou for your message

Andy

My mum lived with liver cancer for 8 years before paring away.  She had chemotherapy off and on.  It was only in the past year of her life I saw it take hold but now we know it was because the cancer had spread.  She had eight good years and missed nothing.  Looking at her you wouldn’t think she was unwell.  She saw her grandchildren be born and spend lots of time with them,  travelled all round the world,  in fact she was never in! She had the most positive attitude!  Don’t give up x

Thankyou for your post

Hi Carol,

An interesting point you made is your daughters comments about her dad. And that is exactly my point.

I have already lived through my first wife dying of cancer, so i know what it's like. It sounds harsh to say I'm not going to go through that and the sooner it's over the quicker everyone can heal and get on with a new life.

If I thought there would be some quality of life in the future I might still decide to have the new Chemo in hope that I can be operated. But I know this is followed by more of the chemo i've already had, which I hated. Then the living in fear bit that it comes back. It's all too much to take in.

Andy

Hi  Andy,

I am so sorry to read that you feel this way, but I do understand I can not be cured of my cancer either and like you going through the chemo and immuno treatment, and looking forward to living my life the best way I can with my children, grandchildren, making memories for my family to cherish.

I did have the chat with my children and explained that IF I can’t take any more chemo or other treatment and felt I had done my best for my children to accept that it is enough and I want to stop treatment they were ok with that I hope this thought helps you Andy and I send you a hug.

with regards 

Lin66