Hi Sammy - so sad that this is happening to you & your wife who you clearly love very much. I suspect that you are staying calm because perhaps a part of you hasn't wholly accepted the diagnosis. But, does it really matter why? What really matters is that you are caring for her & that you don't want her to suffer or be frightened so you are doing just what is necessary for her comfort.

Please don't feel guilty in any way - I think you might be suprised at how many of us feel this way when a loved one is dying. Why would you want her to finad anything but peace? Guilt is also a common feeling because we think we should be able to protect & make better those we love & of course this isn't always possible.

What you're feeling is normal - please try to take each day as it comes & don't over analyse your feelings. They are what they are but what matters most as far as your wife is concerned is what you are doing & nothing else.

Post again if it helps & do take care of yourself. xx