Hi haybee19, I know this might be hard to do but please take a deep breath, and I mean a really deep breath and slowly exhale! Feel a sense of relief despite the turmoil that surrounds you and your family at this time. Just breathe one breath at a time and take a step back because I'm sure that your mind is racing at 100MPH. Sadly, cancer can be one of those illnesses that totally sneaks up on you and you have no symptoms until it's too late. My dad was strong and outgoing when a 7cm tumor was found in his right lung. The diagnosis? Stage 4 Non Small Cell Lung Cancer. No one in my family ever had cancer so it completely side- blinded us. I fell into survival mode and I knew that I had to start making decisions in my dad's best interest, and not in mine. Doctors in two different states explained to me that dad wasn't a good candidate for aggressive treatment, and they were right. Why make him suffer? From diagnosis to death was only 17 weeks. Anyway, I would like you to kick, scream, cry and after you let it out, grab the bull by the horns! Take control of what you must. If not anyone else, be sure to get your mother's legalities in order. If possible, become her power of attorney in the event that you must make decisions on her behalf. Most importantly pray, and enjoy every single second of everyday with her. Know that the Lord is in control, and he has a perfect plan.  Your mom will always be with you whether physically or spiritually, she will never leave you. Take many pictures and videos of mom to cherish. Look at family photos with her and share your favorite memories, tell her how much you love her and that she was the best mom ever! Leave nothing unsaid and forgive.  This life here on earth is not the end. You WILL meet again. In the meantime, have an open and honest conversation with mom and learn her true wishes. Remember that cancer treatment can be worse than the illness, and she might not want to fight and that IS OKAY! As difficult as it is, you have to respect her wishes. Trust in God, everything will be okay.