Hi Carly 

Sorry i didn't write earlier thought someone else maby with a nice grandfather might reply, but no anyway sorry about your grandfather, this is what the forum is all about helping people, to write what they think and let it out, they'll be people like yourself on here somewhere, some could look through and find you, or you can have a look around,, some just want to have a good rant it does help, hope you're looking after yourself, don't want you getting ill,, best wishes and God bless. 

Billy 

Hi,

I am recently going through something extremely similar to you, however my grandad has never been diagnosed before recently. His cancer has only just shown symptoms now and he has deteriorated quickly. 

He is my best friend and my whole world. I am in a state of shock that I just feel like I’m in a total nightmare and it hasn’t really registered yet. All I can say is surround yourself with your family and positive thoughts - as that’s the only thing helping me cope right now. 

I can can talk whenever you need someone to talk to, as I know the feeling of burdening your family when they are already upset as it is. Keep positive x

Hi Carly, I'm so sorry to hear about your grandad.

Me and you are in very similar situations. It is awful to hear that someone so close to you has a terminal illness, and each one of us has to come to terms with that in our own way. Whether that is kicking and screaming, or silent sobbing. It will be in the forefront of the minds of all your family, and I'm sure if you spoke to relatives it would not burden them. If you have cousins or siblings who are going through the same thing, they might be the best people to speak to as it's their grandad too. If not, there are charities and helplines you can call and speak to professionals who can help you come to terms with his prognosis. Sending so much love from one heart broken family to another x

Thank you very much for your reply, I really appreciate it it helps a lot knowing there are other people in the same situation as you and people you can relate too. 

I am so sorry to hear your news as it is devastating It helps me a lot to chat on here to people such as yourself to reassure me. It helps to know I’m not the only one feeling the way I am about burdening my family. 

I offer a chat to you anytime you need one, I know these times are hard but we can get through them together x

First of I am very sorry to hear about your situation as I can imagine the pain you and your family are feeling I will definitely use your advice about talking to people as I realise silent sobbing probably isn’t the answer. 

Secondly if you ever need a chat about your struggles or need reassurance from someone who is in the same boat. 

Just leave a reply

sending love x