Mums CUP lung/abdomen

Hi everyone,

sorry that we are all here, cancer is so very cruel.

My mum was diagnosed last Oct with CUP cancer in 5 different places, liver, lung, abdomen, collar bone and diaphragm.

She had 2 rounds of chemo and it stablized between March/April.

She was then left with no treatment as it had stabilised and then re scanned.

We had the results on Wednesday. 

It has grown. Devastated beyond words. I know it isn’t going to get better. Her sickness came back with very little appetite.

We were told in Oct/Nov time that without treatment she would only have 3/4 months.

The doctor asked us if we wanted some figures on Wednesday. 

I broke down before he said anything more. 

Must the most awful feeling breaking down and sobbing in a hospital. 

He said 12 months from diagnosis.

Im destroyed. I don’t know how to handle all this. I have 2 children, 1 of which was raised by my mum and myself as I was young when I had him.

He is ridiculously close to her, he is 14.5 years old and just about to get really into his GCSEs. I can’t tell him anything else apart from more chemo.

 

i can’t tell anyone otherwise I break down and cry.

I have to get up and dressed very early, if I didn’t, I don’t think I ever would again.

 

How do we do this without our brains exploding with the stress?

 

Does anybody have anymore statistics they’ve personally had with CUP please?

 

thankyou.

  • Hi. I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I wish I had an answer, or some wise words. What I will say is take good care of yourself and treat yourself with great kindness as you would anyone else in your position.

    My mums been diagnosed with advanced stage 4 small cell lung cancer. I found out 6 weeks ago by chance when I contacted my brother. Bit of an unusual one as it’s my birth mother and we have an interesting relationship to say the least. I felt like I’d been hit by a truck when I found out. Then things settled a bit. And now the truck again. It’s such a physical feeling isn’t it?

    I think I get a little hung up on statistics. I basically want to know when it’s going to happen so I can be prepared.  I’m not religious but I’ll say a prayer for you and wish you courage and strength.