Support for a dying young mum

I hope I’m not posting this in the wrong place, please delete if not appropriate.

My incredible friend is dying at the age of 35 with two young children. She has been incredibly positive and strong throughout her battle is now in a hospice and really struggling to get her head around it all. We, her friends have supported her in any way we know how and she has lots of visitors. But this is simply not enough.

She is understandably desperately sad to  know she will leave her children and husband. When people visit she’s devastated she may never see them again. She wants to be at home but sadly it’s not worked out. We are struggling to keep her spirits up and I am running out of any words to comfort her. She is atheist so for her this is it :-(

any advice on what we can do to help her now would be appreciated. We just want to help bring her some peace.

  • Hi there ... and welcome... your deffinatly in the right place... 

    My heart goes out to everyone, esp those loosing loved ones / friends so young ... it's cancer at its crulest ... it wants to devastate families ... and l stick two fingers up to it ... 

    My daughter in law has a close friend now with young children and a terminal diagnosis... what's going on to take so many young lives ... words fail me ... as someone with cancer, it's easier for me, as my family are grown ... I really don't know how id have coped when they were young ..

    It's so wonderful to have so many around her that love her ... and hopefully all those will support her children after ... that will be her main thought right now ... it would be mine ... telling her you'll keep an eye on her babies , I think will give her most comfort right now ... that's what I'd want to hear ...

    She will probly go through many emotions now .. and there's not a lot you can say to ease it ... just listen and hold her hand ... that's what we'd all want ... someone to walk this last journey with us ... she may still feel angry / sad / why me / and usually after that is accepting.... 

    This is going to be one of the hardest things you ever have to do ... but try to live in the minute .. and they say the last thing to go is our hearing ... so keep talking to her, she just may hear you ...

    Sending you all a vertual hug ...  I'm so so sorry ... chrissie