Hello

Hello. I’ve just joined this chat today because I realised that it might be best to talk to people about my worries... people who understand me. I’m 17, and my mum was diagnosed with bowel cancer in 2016. Then this time last year, we were told it was terminal and had spread to other places. However, we have remained positive throughout and she has been doing so well with her operations and treatment up until now. I’ve managed to cope really well with it so far, as well as I can. The thing that upsets me the most is the medication she is on. Because the cancer has spread to her spine, which is apparently quite a rare place, there is little they can do to manage pain and it’s really sore for her all the time. This has meant that she has had to go on methadone to help, which makes her SO SO sleepy. She is sleepy all the time. She sometimes can’t even keep her eyes open. This upsets me so much because things have been going so well up until now and we have basically been carrying on like a normal family doing the same things as we always have. But the new medication has completely put that to a stop and we can hardly do anything now :( I don’t know how long I have left with her and I don’t want her last few years to be spent asleep all the time. But I obviously want her to not be sore. It’s so hard. I’m only 17 and I have so many worries. I know there’s probably not a lot you can say to help me, but I just wanted to post to have a bit of a rant. 

  • Hi ya ...

    Oh my ... cancer sucks big time ... l can't imagine just how heartbraking this time is for you at this age ... you should be just starting your adult life with fun and enjoying life ... 

    I lost my parents in my 30s and that made me feel cheated ... but 17 ... it makes me wish I had a magic wand ... but all I can say from having back problems and cancer myself , I can understand a little of what your mum is feeling ... and have to have two days complete rest a week .. 

    All I've learned is cancer does go into the back quite often ... and the pain is really intense...so in a way , your mum sleeping a lot, will stop her feeling that pain a little ... I'd say just now live in the day ... take every day for what it is ... if she's sleeping lots .. you just holding her hand will mean more then you'll ever know... if she gets a good day .. hopefully you can make the most of them days ... though they will get fewer as time goes .. but keep talking to her even when she's sleeping ... she'll still feel comfort from the sound of your voice ... 

    This is a great place to come ... it's for everyone effected by cancer .. and like you say, we can feel better just putting all our feelings down ... and on here people know how crule cancer can be .. your not alone my hunny .. you just let it all out ... sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie

  • hello , 

     

    sending my love , cancer is so horrible no matter what you stay strong for you mum :) 

     

     my gran has cervical cancer but it’s advanced and they are not giving her treatment cause it would only make it worse she’s been given the matter of months sohorrible I am only 23