Hello everyone!

My Dad has very advanced prostate cancer. We lost my mum about two years ago, also to cancer. . So the whole situation has been devastating for our family. 

My sister and I are doing our best to support my Dad; however he’s very aggressive and abusive towards us. I wish I could say that grief was the reason for this aggressive streak. He’s unfortunately always been like this. 

Nevertheless we’re doing absolutely everything we can to continue to support him. Retaliating with loads of love when he has an episode. However he’s become very secretive. He refused to see me at Christmas. Instead spending it with his new partner. He rarely sees my sisters three sons. Worst of all, he won’t allow us to come to hospital appointments. So we have no idea where he’s at with treatment. 

From what he’s told us: 

- He’s got a mass in his pelvis and the cancer has spread significantly down his right leg. He had to have a metal rod put in to support his pelvis from snapping. 

- He has metastasis in various parts of his body, lung, bones, spine vertebrae, stomach. 

- Hes in significant pain with his leg and pelvis. 

- He’s sleeping often. 

- He’s not as quick as he used to be. Often taking long pauses when speaking or losing his train of thought. 

- He’s experiencing incontinence issues regularly. 

- He’s being watched very carefully for spinal chord compression. 

My question is: in people’s experience.. how long do we think he has left? This might sound like a very morbid question but my children and my sisters children want to spend as much time with him as possible before he passes. We would also like to emotionally prepare them for what’s to come; as they’re still very emotional about losing their grandma. We don’t want to tell them before we need to. 

Hopefully you can appreciate how difficult this situation is xxx