Welcome to Cancer Chat, Smudgie22, although I'm so sorry to hear about the reason that brings you here.

What an incredibly difficult situation you're in. I'm glad though that you found us and decided to join, as I'm sure others who have dealt with a similar experience when it comes to taking care of a loved one with cancer will come along shortly to share their stories with you and offer support.

Many say that there's no way to prepare to lose a loved one really but if this can help in any way I wanted to forward you a page from our website which talks about resources and support when someone is dying, to read more please click here.

Wishing you and your mum all the best,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Smudgie, im so sorry for what you are going through. My father died from pancreatic cancer when I was 29. He was asymptomatic 2 weeks prior to his death so it was a complete shock. We didn’t have much time to say goodbye. There was no treatment, only palliatative care, it was hard. 

 I would say talk about it openly, where does your mum want to be when she passes, her home or a hospice, does she have any final wishes. You can’t really prepare for the end, all you can do is be strong for your mum but it’s ok to cry too. Cherish the time you have with her.