Hello Grantawish.  Sorry about your mum.  I am guessing from your post that you asked someone involved in your mum's care and s/he declined to give you a straightforward answer?  It is notoriously difficult (in my limited experience of caring for friends with cancer) to be definite about this - medics can give a kind of estimate based on the average of other patients in a similar situation - which may or may not be many people in the exact situation of your mum.  But even then people can surprise us and them.  If there are say two patients in the same situation and one lived say six months and another lived two months some might say the average time was four months but of course that is pretty meaningless in context.  People vary so much.  I have known terminally-ill patients who seemed to be doing well but who suddenly seemed to decline very quickly; another who was not expected to live much longer but hung on in there and surprised everyone.  I know this is not a great deal of help for you; your best guide is to watch over your mum and talk to her as she will give you the best ongoing guide as to what is happening to her body.    Share any relevant information with the medics and, well, make the most of the time you have.  Best wishes.  Annie

Hi there ...

So sorry your going through this ... we never want to loose our mum's. .

But sometimes when they say no chemo or treatment, they know when to say it's time to hold her hand .. and I'm sure you wouldn't really want to see her go through that and it is really hard, even for young fit ones ... maybe as someone with cancer ... there comes a time to live in the day ... make as many memories as you can .. don't let a day go by ... l lost my mum suddenly from a heart attack and had no chance to even say those things like I was so proud to have had her for my mum .... 

You have that chance l never had ... so hold her hand .. walk by her side for whatever time she has ... none of us know if we'll get tomorrow ... that's my look on life now ... I'm here today, so I'm making the most of every day ...

Sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie 

Thank you Annie x 

Chrissie thank you for these wise words I had not thought of it like that but I will from now on it doesn't matter how long does it , I'm lucky enough to still be able to speak with her n hug her today n that's enough .thank you for your wisdom xx

Your welcome ...

Just make sure you both leave nothing unsaid ... my family listened to all my wishes and once I'd said them, I could just get on with normal life ... ask her things like her childhood ... how she met your dad ..bet there's some things she could tell you to make you both laugh too ... coz we always remember the laughter ...  find out if there's anything she would like to do or see .. and you know sharing tears is o.k too .. and admitting your both scared ... Will help you walk that same path together ...

Here if ever you want a chat ... this won't be easy ... but if you make this journey together ,.. you'll look back and be so grateful you did ...  Chrissie xx