Hi TDAH, 

I'm so sorry for you. Sending a massive hug your way. Only you know the answer to whether you want to go back and be with her or if not. 

Once you've made your decision, whatever you do, do not beat yourself up about it. She knows how loved she is. 

Are you far from where she is. 

Sending love and strength. 

Rosie xxx

Hi Rosie,

Not far... a few miles. I want to remember her as she was and I'm so worried I wont be able to get these images our of my head. I love her so much and have looked after her since my Father died. She has been a wonderful Mum and I'll miss her so much. I'm just bereft.

I understand the pain, I've just lost my Dad. I was with him an hour before but not right at the last minute, he was with another family member and I havn't felt bad about not being there at the last minute. 

I think it's just really a matter of would she want you right there, and do you feel you can be. And if you can't she is in good hands being cared for and you've done everything you can. You should be proud of yourself for being her support since your Dad passed. She must feel so lucky to have you. You've done all you can. 

Here anytime you want to message. 

Hope you have some other family or friends for support. 

Xx

Hi there

I am so sorry to hear about your mum. I can relate as I lost my hero, my wonderful dad 17 weeks ago and am still heartbroken. I was with my dad when he died and it wasnt a bad experience as was peaceful and painfree, and I have great pleasure in knowing that he chose me to be by his side. It is so unreal even 17 weeks on and I’m still At times can’t believe he is actually gone forever and not to be seen ever again  

I hope your mum is peaceful.

Thinking of you take care X

She passed today at 545... I am bereft. She was conscious all the way through...no one tells you that.

So sorry to read about your loss, I was with my Mam when she died of cancer. It wasn't a great experience, but with hindsight I am so glad I was as she knew me, Dad and my sister were there with her when she finally let go and she was peaceful and pain free at the end.

With time, you will start to remember her as she was before the cancer. We all do eventually, however impossible that may seem at the moment.

Best wishes to you and your family. 

Dave

RosieApples,

Sorry to read about your loss too, I think you're right - as long as there is someone there at the end who loves and cares that's all we can hope for. 

Best wishes

Dave

So so sorry TDAH, thinking of you and all you are going through. Life is very strange and very sad and difficult at times. 

I love this quote from Winnie the Pooh

" How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye soo hard"

xxx

Hi RosieApples,

I lost my fiancee 15 years ago in a car crash

I lost my Dad 9 years ago in a car crash that Mum survived.

I moved in with my Mum to take care of her and gave up on relationships...so I thought...

I managed somehow whilst all this was going on to get a great job and have fallen in love with a woman I can't  possibly be with.... and.now my Mum has died. The only consistent thing in my life.

I have a brother who I love very much... how do I possibly carry on??

Sorry..

I am so sorry to hear this. There is nothing I can say other than be kind to yourself. Losing ur favourite person who loves you unconditionally is such a major happen and NO ONE knows until they have been thru it for themselves first hand. Sending love X