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Hey everybody. 

I don’t know how to even start this so I’m sorry if it’s a mess. My dad has been battling cancer for the past three years (bowel and stomach), and last week we were told there was now officially nothing more that could be done.

Over the past few days, he’s gone downhill really fast. Sunday he was up and chatting, and now he doesn’t even have the energy to speak. Today the hospital told us that they don’t expect him to last the rest of the week, and just... don’t know how to deal with it? I don’t know what to do.

My parents are the only family I’ve got, and I can’t imagine the rest of my life without my dad. He’s always been there for me (I was always a daddy’s girl, aha) and now there’s so much of my life he won’t be there for. I just feel so lost. 

How do you deal with it? How do you cope?

 

Sorry for rambling... :/ 

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    I am very sorry you are in such a horrible situation.  Having lost my Mum just a few weeks ago I know what an awful time it is. 

    Your Dad will know you love him. You may find a little comfort  by spending as much time with him as you can and talking about whatever you want and can.

    You say your parents are the only family you have got; do you have any friends? If so, I suggest time with them could be very helpful.

    I can't say I know how to  deal with it really; I'm just 'bumbling' along so far. I am trying to identify something specific to do each day or week. People say time is a great healer. Well, I hope so. Like you, I feel so lost at the moment.  When you love someone as we do, then the best you can hope for is to reach a stage where you can cope with it. I am waiting to see a counsellor which is something that you may like to consider at some time.

    My thoughts are with you

     

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    Going through the same place with my mum and can't imagine loosing her from my life.  I know I don't want her to be hurting so its for the best but equally can barely breathe with the thought of her going.  Cancer is a *** disease! She was recovering from breast cancer late last year when her pain and calcium levels both started rising, in hospital over Christmas where she developed a dilerium and having last week been told it was now through her bones but they could manage that for a year or more, to today being told her decline has been rapid and is progressing at a faster rate than they could ever have predicted and we have very little time left.  Sure we'll both cope as what choice do we have? Just wish it was different. x

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