How believable?

So my Grandma had been complaining about pain for around 2 months. Then about 3 weeks ago she started to lose a lot of weight. Last week she was admitted to hospital with an "infection" that was in the bowel and spread to her abdomen. She died yesterday and apparently they only realized it was cancer the day before. How belivable is this? 

My grandma was the closest person to me but I'm currently a number of hours away at university so wasn't there when she passed. I can't help but think that my family lied to me and knew she only had a few days to live. I did come up and see her 4 days before she passed but it was only a short visit. I honestly didn't think she was going to pass ...and if she was close to doing so it wouldn't of been anytime soon and of course I would of stayed. I didn't even get to say goodbye.

It's was exam season at university so they knew I was busy revising but there was always resits. I can't help but feel weird because I feel like they are just telling me what i want to hear so I have no idea if she suffered or what actually happened and it's hard for closure.

  • Hi there ...

    So so sorry you lost your grandma to this crule cancer ..

    When my mum died, suddenly of a heart attack. . My oldest son was 16 and just joined the boy service of the army ... they were so so close .. we'd visited him at the army a couple of weeks before she died .. like you he didn't know he'd never see his wonderful nan again ...

    I'm sure over the years she's looked out for him .. and even now he puts photos of her with him as a baby and growing up she always saved a special cuddle for him .. you see, don't dwell on how or why .. I'm sure my mum wouldn't have wanted my son to see her go.. that would have been to painfull for her ..

    None of us got to say good bye ... and that's always a sad thought ..but I'm sure your grandma is really proud of you, and one day you'll be with her again .. take her with you on your journey through life. . You are a quarter of her ... keep her tucked up in your heart , like my son does his nan... and think what she would tell You now ... you know her ... take care of your heart .. and know the grief is the price we pay for being blessed to have had them in our lives ...  Chrissie x