RP15, I’m so sorry for you and your Mum. Life isn’t fair and many of us are broken too. At least here you can talk if you want to.

and you are very brave

Hi,

Understand how you feel RP15, so sorry you're in this position. It's the shock you feel, my mum left hospital on the Friday, Dr was telling us on the following Tuesday about end of life, I'll never forget my dad's face, it does break you, there's no other way to describe it.

I held my mum's hand and told her 'its ok mum, it's ok, I couldn't say the word goodbye. There are no words, but I read your post and wanted to say I can relate to what you say. It is easy for me to say but try not too think ahead and as people say here on the forum, cherish every moment, leave nothing unsaid.

Thinking of you at this sad and difficult time.

x

Thank you for your response. It was so nice to hear from others. Today my brother and I have prepared her little house for her to come home even if it's firn1 night before she goes into hospice care. She has deteriorated more today and her cognitive thinking process is very slow. I'm thankful that we had some time to say goodbye properly before she started to deteriorate.  We lost our dad when I was 12 years old so we are a very close family. She is very loved by everyone. Send all my love and thoughts to everyone going through this with a loved one. Life can be so cruel xxxx

Hey,

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. She sounds like a wonderful person!

My mum got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer today and I fear she doesn't have long to live. She is my world and does everything for me still. I feel lost and can't imagine life without her. I'm here if you need to talk. I could use a friend right now.

Then know you have a friend who is also loosing her best friend.  I'm having great comfort to know everyone is there. Thank you for your kind worda. Please know if you need me I'm here x

Hello,

So sorry to hear about your mum being diagnosed with cancer my grandad has recently been diagnosed with terminal cancer and it is a really really hard thing to go through, although you want to be strong for your family please don’t hold feelings and emotions in it’s important you talk about how you’re feeling and what you’re feeling, joining these forums will help as everyone is going through the same thing. You have to look on the positive side and think that she has a great family round her and has seen her children grow up and grandchildren grow too and as you said has had a happy life which is great. All you can do is make the most of the time you have had with her, and celebrate her life :) feel free to message me if you would like someone to speak to, wishing you all the best at this difficult time. 

Hey 

i just saw your post and had to reply. I too am in a very similar situation we rushed my mum into hospital a few weeks ago with seizures and it turns out that she has lung cancer which has spread t her brain we are still waiting on biopsy results next week but the waiting is horrendous and physically painful. To be given this news and try to cope is absolutely devastating beyond belief. I cry I scream I’m angry and then I think how do I go on without my soul mate my best friend the one person who knows me more than I know myself. Why is the world so cruel. 

My my heart goes out to you I can empathise exactly what you are going through the best advice is to take photos and do everything in your power to create memories. Say all the things you need to say right now.

I am so sorry to hear this sending you lots of love and strength for this  difficult time.

I am going through a similar thing with my mum, we are also in the last stages just spending as much time with her at home before she will need to go to a hospice. 

She has 7 grandchildren and they are all heartbroken by what us going on such a hard difficult time for everyone. 

I hope you have a good family and friend support network around you as that is invaluable.

Wishing you love 

I'm so sorry to hear that you are also going through this. Sending my love to you all and your families. Xxxxxxx

I understand how u feel. My beautiful mum wasn’t ready at all. She fought  so hard. Having her voice box, tongue and everything that went wiv it removed. Just 2 spend that little longer wiv her grandchildren.... not mine, unfortunately I can’t have children. But my goodness she loved them. The worst thing was her having panic attacks because she didn’t want 2 die. I have panic attacks, but there was a huge difference. I believe wen I’m having a panic attack I can b reassured I’m not going 2 die! My mum didn’t have that. That’s wot kills me. Watching her suffer that, knowing she was going 2 die. She held on 4 8 days, after loosing consciousness. She was stubborn. Like mother like daughter. I miss her