Hi Monica, so sorry to read about your dad, I understand this will be an upsetting and anxious time for you. My beautiful mum died on 26th September and had stopped eating and drinking very little in the last few days. We know that our mum wanted to go, the Myleofibrosis drained her of any energy and her quality of life had been poor for quite some time, she was just over 5 stone when she passed away. I never said goodbye, I just held her hand and said its ok mum, its ok, I'll see you again. She had a very strong faith and had said in years gone by that she had no fear of death.

It is devastating to watch someone you love so much deteriorate before you, I read passages from the bible to mum, I think she liked that, I hope it gave her some comfort. My mum didn't talk much due to, also having Alzheimers, just a horrible time.

Not sure if your dad likes music, but we also had some of mums favourite songs playing quietly in the background, all you can do is just be there, keep talking as they say that sense is the last to go,leave nothing unsaid. I am sure your dad is comforted just from you being there.

We had District nurses come in and ensure mum wasn't in any distress or pain, hope you have the same support if your dad is at home.

Thinking of you at this difficult time.

x

Hi Monica. . I know these days your suffering and they are awful. . My mum's primary was lung. . Can your dad still talk because lung cancer takes their voice box in a lot of cases. . My mum could barely talk but I constantly talked to her. Everyone who entered through hospice I introduced to her and told her what they were here to help with. But I like you didn't want her to be afraid or think that we knew something she didn't. So maybe ask him. I asked mum and she actually spoke and said no I'm not afraid. I told her that if she isn't then I wouldn't be. But if you get a minute please please go onto you tube and watch Anita Moorjani .. She was in her final stages of cancer with only a few days estimated to live.  Her story is one of a kind and she's an educated woman who isn't seeking glory i promise you. . She gives details on her awareness during the stage of where your dad is now. It's helped me in some of my fears and confusion surrounding mum's passing. I'm truly sorry for you and send you love. God bless your dear dad and god bless you x