my mum bacame very ill in July, her GP advised she had a mass in her tummy & at 86 she opted to not take treatment she wanted to stay at home on several occasions we tried to get an MRI but mum was to weak or unwell so we postponed. She has not left the house since after 3 weeks barely eating back in July she was given steroids & a pain patch. Within days she improved she started to eat & although she sleeps most of the time she’s doing ok. My issue is I’m the only carer & im scared that she may not be terminal. She eats still & although she’s very weak & gets breathless a lot she’s seems physically strong.
the doctor says the MRI would not change her treatment as she’s opted not to have medical intervention but I feel the MRI would show how bad the cancer is. But everyone says would she be well enough for the trip to the hospital & 20 minuets in the machine. I feel like I’ve been in fear of her death daily for 6 months & would like to know has she got moths or weeks. This makes me sound so selfish, I’m on my own nursing her & ive nobody to use as a sounding board. Thanks for any help or advice it’s a scary lonely place to be left responsible for someone’s end of life care.
