Hi there

I just read your post and wanted to say how sorry I am. I can't answer your questions but I know what you are feeling.

My dad has just been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer which we know is on the liver but we don't know yet how far it has spread. We are in bits so understand your pain.

I wake up and it hits me, then I try to be normal but it's like a brick is inside my stomach. I was on here searching for people to say it gets better, it gets easier. I'm not able to imagine losing him. I'm preying that time could be on our side but everything I read seems to have show the opposite. 

I am so sorry you are going through this too.

Xxx

Hello,

I am up constantly trying to find ways I can help or if someone too can tell me it can all be a mistake. I’m absolutely broken, I have a small baby and I’m just scared because my dad is the only one I have and he’s my best mate too. 

May I ask what they’ve done for your dad so far since he was diagnosed? 

My my dad has his biopsy tommorow. I hate all of this it’s like I’m in a nightmare and need to wake up. 

I hope your okay, and just take one day at a time. Sending love. 

Milly x 

Hi, I am so sorry. I know how heartbreaking it all is. My Dad has Pancreatic cancer too, was diagnosed in May, but they never actually told us what stage, only that he had months. He had around 7 rounds of chemo, but that has now stopped completely as he was hospitalised for 3 weeks with erratic heart, low neutrophils (white blood cells) and neutropenic sepsis. He's only just come home and on a shed load of pills. We literally have no idea how long he has. He also has a bad backache and takes oral morphine to control the pain. I am so scared I feel sick, I'm frightened for my mum and the affect it's having on all the family.  If you ever need a chat, a rant, anything, just message me. Xx

Unfortunately, Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer doesn't have a very good prognosis. I have recently lost my dad a fortnight ago to a rare form of stomach cancer that had a similar prognosis and it has been the worst year of my life. You need to just keep believing that they could be the one to beat it.  Someone must do, surely? My dad had a great deal of pain and repeated enemas to move his bowels as the laxatives did not help. What is the biopsy for?

Hi Sparkle123,

my mum isn’t around so he really is really important to me I think most people’s parents are aren’t they and you just don’t ever want to or expect to see them In pain it’s so heartbreaking. It makes me feel ill and I defiantly think I’m battling depression yet this is nothing compared to what he is going through. 

How long ago was your dad diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and did the chemo have any effect on him? 

Message me if you’d like a chat it sounds like we are both in the same ish situation. 

I hope your okay,

all the best xx 

Did he feel better after the enemas? 

His biopsy is to see if he can have any chemo or not. Did you’re dad have chemo at all? 

Cancer is awful, I’m putting all my faith & hope into him having a longer with us. I’d be lost without him xx

Hi

I've messaged you [@Tinkerbell163]‍ Has your dad tried Movicol?.  Its powder you put into water.  Its a stool softener.  My Dad has this on prescription.  Seems to help along with lactulose. xx

My dad had regular enemas that helped him in the beginning but had less impact towards his final weeks/days. Dad had 6 rounds of chemotherapy which helped to reduce some of his symptoms, which were very severe on diagnosis. It really is the worst thing ever, it's been the most horrific year of my life losing dad. He lived 8 months from diagnosis x

Hi 

My Mum was diagnosed with Stage 4 Pancreatic cancer on Jan 2nd 2018 and Mum died on 31st Jan 2018. It was very quick and heart breaking to watch my lovely Mum fade away. Mum suffered badly with terminal agitation but we had good care from Mum's GP and McMillan. Mum was fitted with morphine drive to control the pain and they were able to put anti-sickness in the drive also. Mum lost her mobility on 21st Jan 2018 and we had hospital bed in living room. It was Mums wish to die at home. Me and my sister cared for her each day, all we could do was make sure she was comfortable. Mum stopped eating about 10 days before the end but she was taking small amount of fluids and still talking to us.  We miss her so much, we  still cant believe she is not with us, it happended so quick and with very little symptoms. We could not save her but we held here hand right to the end  Take care